Comment on So say, someone lives in an English speaking country and wanna see a movie in the threaters but they struggle to understand English, how are they supposed to watch it?

• Azzu@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨13⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  The separation anxiety doesn’t go away if you don’t separate sometimes.

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  • DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works ⁨12⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    aaaaahhhhh

    My parents fucked up my brain…

    From birth to like 12 years old… I wasn’t allowed to go outside by myself…

    Just home all the time… or in school…

    Never played with a peer outside of school…

    Every time I wanna go outside… its with mom…

    so the inertia just remained…

    I think I first was allowed to walk home by myself in like 6th grade… I was 13

    after that, I only went to the library like a few times…

    But besides those rare moments, never been alone outside (besides home or school or walking to and from school) by myself…

    Feels like climbing mt everest

    Like I never even felt brave enough to like… ask someone to just hang out after school hours…

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    • Azzu@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨9⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      I know it’s hard, I also have lots of experience getting over fears. I was myself extremely socially afraid and afraid of all kinds of things in a less severe manner.

      I have an Singaporean girlfriend right now who is similar, who I’m helping through it as well.

      Believe me, I know the struggle. It’s so unbelievably hard to do things you’re afraid of and the main problem is that it all happens inside your head. All the effort you’re putting in is basically invisible to an outsider. They might push you because they don’t see how much you’re already doing, which just makes it worse because you start feeling like you should be doing more, and then on top of feeling afraid you also feel like shit because you do “so little”, which is not little at all.

      You can do it, I believe in you :D if you want any more words, I’m here, I don’t wanna ramble on and on lol

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• Steve@communick.news ⁨12⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  It’s not good family bonding time, sitting and not talking to each other.
  It’s better than nothing, but any activity that explicitly directs you all to interact with each other is better.

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  • DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works ⁨12⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Eh…

    Find seats next to each other and like just… being in the presense of each other…

    And there’s something to talk about afterwards… that’s an issue… mom really wants to “talk to me” but there’s no topics to talk about… movies can spark a conversation afterwards…

    I mean what other activity do you recommend?

    That aren’t too stressful for someone like me with depression?

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    • Steve@communick.news ⁨12⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      I like cooperative tabletop games.
      Check out your local game store. See what they recomend for cooperative games with simple rules for beginners. Pick up one or two that seem interesting to you.

      For the whole seperation thing, try going to the game store on your own. Come up with some options, then talk to mom about what seems interesting. Then go again on your own and buy whatever you agreed to try.

      That way jist getting the games could serve both helping with separation and bonding at the same time.

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