Have you heard of this these things called condoms?
Or birth control?
Or fleshlights and vibrators?
…Did you ever take a sex ed class, or no?
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Mika@piefed.ca 3 weeks agoSex brings pleasure and consequences in children/std or even physical injuries. Also sex is largerly overrated when we have videogames and anime.
sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 weeks ago
Mika@piefed.ca 3 weeks ago
STDs are not 100% prevented by condoms, and STIs are not prevented at all. The more sex partners you have, the bigger the odds you’ll have consequences.
Toys as substitute to what, physical contact? Having a partner?
sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 weeks ago
… Or you can have sex with people who both use protection, and … go to the doctor at least once or twice a year, and include an STD/STI screen in their checkups.
You know, actually knowing the people you’ve had sex with?
I’ve had sex with between 10 and 20 different partners.
Some flings, some serious relationships.
Did this with all of them.
No STDs/STIs, for any of us.
Even if you do have certain STIs/STDs, there are ways that you can greatly reduce the risk of transmission, manage things.
I bring up toys because you bring up injuries, games, and anime.
There are a lot of different kinds of toys and other sex aides that can make sex easier and/or less likely for anybody to injure themselves, for a wide variety of potential injuries and body types, sex positions.
Also, while sure toys are not the same thing as a partner, I’d argue that they’re more sexually satisfying than just looking at game or anime, and there’s a good deal of evidence that its unhealthy to not orgasm at least semi-regularly, when you’re younger, for both your mind and body.
And also, toys can be used by or with partners, even remotely, and we are now at the point where sex toys essentially are or can be video game controllers, basically, can output uh, sensations, and can also input your ‘commands’.
Mika@piefed.ca 2 weeks ago
You can orgasm without a partner. Same goes for toys. That’s not sex. It’s not even unusual for asexual people do all that.
Limiting amount of partners to single digits or even just one reduces the odds of issues drastically. It’s not a religious thing.
Y’all look like those teens that got to live separately from their parents to start eating sweets 100% time instead of normal food cause it’s tastier. Fun for a while. Bad idea in the long run.
arrow74@lemmy.zip 3 weeks ago
Consequences is just a wild thing to say.
When I get a cold no one jumps on my shit for having to live with the consequences of going outside. They say sorry to hear you’re sick feel better
Mika@piefed.ca 2 weeks ago
Actions have consequences, what a weird concept. Being outside in the cold in light clothes have consequences with increased chance to catch cold.
Nobody would tell you to live with the consequences cause it’s not permanent, several days at home and you are fine.
thethunderwolf@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 weeks ago
aren’t STDs and STIs the same thing???
sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 weeks ago
Sort of, kind of, its a bit complicated.
www.verywellhealth.com/std-vs-sti-5214421
STDs start as sexually transmitted infections (STIs). An infection occurs when a sexually transmitted bacterium, virus, or microbe enters the body and starts multiplying. Once established, the infection can develop into a disease, known as an STD.
Although this distinction can be made, most health authorities, like the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), use the terms interchangeably. The American Sexual Health Association mentions a shift toward using “STI,” but there’s no consensus in the medical and public health community.3
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STIs are infections caused by bacteria, viruses, or parasites.6 They’re usually transmitted during sexual activity through an exchange of bodily fluids or skin-to-skin contact where the infection is active.
STIs can also be transmitted through non-sexual activities involving the exchange of bodily fluids. For instance, sharing needles can spread the human immunodeficiency virus (HIV). Kissing on the mouth can transmit some STIs, though it generally poses a low risk for most.
STDs are diseases that result from STIs. All STDs start out as infections. Pathogens, which are disease-causing organisms such as viruses and bacteria, enter the body and begin multiplying. When these pathogens disrupt normal body functions, they produce diseases.
It’s important to note that some STIs may never develop into diseases. For example, most human papillomavirus (HPV) cases go away on their own without causing health problems. However, HPV can produce genital warts or cervical cancer, which are diseases.
Agrivar@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
You should try having good sex once or twice, and then get back to us.
SwingingTheLamp@piefed.zip 3 weeks ago
That’s difficult when doctors amputated all your best sensory receptors shortly after birth.
thethunderwolf@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 weeks ago
“Religion demands it” is not an excuse for child genital mutilation to be legal. Freedom of religion includes freedom from religion. The government must never pass religion-motivated laws nor use religion as a reason or excuse to do something nor as a reason against something. I personally would rather have the government ban religion than involve it in laws (but the ideal would be it doing neither).
The child did not consent. The parents’ consent counting as consent by the child is bullshit.
Also the practice includes intersex erasure: children lucky enough to be born fully androgynous are immediately mutilated, usually by removing the male parts.
Agrivar@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Yay for foreskins! Or are we talking about the far more barbaric female circumcision?
SwingingTheLamp@piefed.zip 2 weeks ago
I’m just commenting from personal experience.
sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 weeks ago
I mean, I got the snip snip at birth, I am not pleased about that, but also, hasn’t stopped me from having (responsible) fun.
… Unless you are talking about female ‘circumcision’, in which case…
… Yeah ok, you got a point with that one.
But if you are a dude, unless they really royally botched things up, then I’d maybe try some different kinds of stimulation, perhaps in different places, to uh… see what really gets your juices flowing.
SwingingTheLamp@piefed.zip 2 weeks ago
Hey, just a suggestion: Maybe listen and understand somebody’s life experience before starting with the advice? This is about the same energy as telling ADHD people to just focus more, or depressed people to smile.
Just like brains, bodies differ. I’ve seen other men on Reddit and Lemmy state that their primary physical sensation comes from the foreskin. A gay friend of mine has met several men who are the same way. It’s not so crazy to believe that some women can orgasm from penetration alone, while many can’t, so maybe men’s bodies vary, too?
I’m glad to hear that your dick works after circumcision. Not everybody is so lucky.
boonhet@sopuli.xyz 3 weeks ago
Well the best sex happens when you and your partner both love each other so it might not be very feasible for them if they behave the same IRL as here.
AbsolutelyNotAVelociraptor@piefed.social 3 weeks ago
Unlike wars and violence that bring pleasure without consequences to the rich fucks who send kids to kill themselves for them.
Certainly, we should have more wars and less sex, it only makes sense, right?
Mika@piefed.ca 3 weeks ago
False equivalence. Are you American or what?
AbsolutelyNotAVelociraptor@piefed.social 3 weeks ago
No.