It’s also just that it’s easier to talk to people while doing things. Chatting over a task/project/activity is kinda just what people do
Comment on Americans: How the hell do you meet new people or get into relationships after college?
TheAlbatross@lemmy.blahaj.zone 10 hours ago
Hobby groups. For board games, hiking, sports, etc.
You already have a shared interest, makes things easier.
captainlezbian@lemmy.world 8 hours ago
TheAlbatross@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 hours ago
True! Making friends out of strangers isn’t really all that difficult, but it does take some practice in being a normal human being and talking to people you just run into.
The sense of community in America is really dying out hard as people isolate themselves further in their little islands of homes and apartments and only socially exist online. But it is possible to just chat with some person you meet in the park while going for a walk without being a weirdo, just many people have forgotten how.
There’s a group of guys I meet up with in the warmer months to fish for bass under a bridge. How’d I meet them? I was fishing for trout in a lake and one of em asked if I had any bites. We had a normal chat between fishers, asking about what we’re targeting, what kinda bait and lures we’re using, comparing successes and failures. I peppered in some info about myself, e.g. mentioned a local noodle bar I liked, mentioned my partner, he did the same, we felt we were similar enough, he invited me to join him and his friends and now we meet up every couple of weeks between April and October.
You just gotta talk to people and not make it weird.
captainlezbian@lemmy.world 8 hours ago
Yeah, it’s a difficult and scary skill to learn, and it begins with the much maligned small talk. Small talk is just easy ways to feel out another person so you might become more comfortable with each other. You just practice it with strangers until you’re comfortable doing it in general, and from there you can move to get better at conversing. It really is just a skill people can learn.
TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 7 hours ago
Plenty of people here are social. They just are not open to meeting new people, new ideas, let alone people that are different than them.
They want everyone everything to be the same. That’s what is super weird to me, personally.
dazzlingclitgame@lemmy.world 7 hours ago
“I’ve had people try to start physical fights with me the past couple of years over differences of opinion or hobbies.” “No woman from a dating app has ever wanted to be my friend unless she was trying to get in my pants and I wasn’t into her.”
Do you think maybe there’s a common denominator here?
SaveTheTuaHawk@lemmy.ca 5 hours ago
I found bars full of people with self abuse issues.
TheAlbatross@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 hours ago
Then the other things seem more useful for you in particular.
mushroommunk@lemmy.today 10 hours ago
This is how I did it. You just have to find the like minded individuals and put in the time to get to know them. I did it through meetup.com some, word of mouth of events from other friends, and just talking a chance and talking to someone who seemed chill from work. Some of my best friends now.
moroninahurry@piefed.social 10 hours ago
I hope Mayberry is nice grandpa. This isn’t the world anymore. If it was you wouldn’t be reading this post.
mushroommunk@lemmy.today 9 hours ago
This has been just over the past couple years for me. It absolutely still is the world if you aren’t a jackass
ameancow@lemmy.world 8 hours ago
Every comment you made in this post has basically been agism wrapped in a cultural mask. I get you’re mad at your parents but you’re also going to be old someday whether you like it or not.