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FriendOfDeSoto@startrek.website 1 day ago
I don’t think those particular comments, in writing and devoid of tone, not meant for public distribution (and she’s probably not running for political office or something justifying higher scrutiny), necessarily qualify as ableist per se, more skirting the line. I’ve said very dumb things in my youth and context is important, even in chat threads. But the rest of the picture you painted of that person is: asshole. So for my money it doesn’t really matter if she ticked that particular box as well. Stay away.
Why should abelsim be given latitude that we wouldn’t extend to racism, sexism, or anti-Semitism?
My opinion is that embarrassed bigotry in private is still bigotry. It’s good that those with such feelings recognize the harm that they bring (or at least the public shaming that they can suffer), but it makes for a simpler life to just excise such hatreds whenever you can.
I did not have the feeling that we’re talking about fully formed adults here.
Context matters.
“Men make me uncomfortable.” Could or could not be sexist. It would depend on why one feels uncomfortable and how they act on that feeling.
It’s a very fine line.
Given the additional context provided by OP… yeah she’s definitely ableist.
blarghly@lemmy.world 1 day ago
Yeah, honestly OP asking “is this ablist” is a bit of a red flag given the picture they have painted. If they were an otherwise “nice” person using ablist language, then this language and possible categorization might be a clue to tell us more about who they really are. But if we already know they are a piece of shit… it doesn’t really matter what flavor of -ist they are. Just don’t interact with them. Don’t think about them. Problem solved. More labelling isn’t needed.