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sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com 17 hours agoPerks of growing up with control freak narcissist parents: You learn how to lie well, when necessary.
Downside: CPTSD, fundamental inability to really trust anyone, ever.
Best_Jeanist@discuss.online 8 hours ago
Are you using that word as an ableist slur or as a reference to that Greek kid who was killed for being asexual?
sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com 8 hours ago
…what?
I have literally no idea what you are talking about.
What is the word that you think is either an ableist slur, or a reference to something I have not heard of?
Best_Jeanist@discuss.online 6 hours ago
In 1979, a historian named Christopher Lasch, who had no psychiatric credentials, wrote a book arguing that modern American culture was increasing the prevalence of a particular psychiatric disorder in the general population.
The book gained a lot of cultural traction, especially among people who call themselves pop psychologists, but whose actual job is writing scam self-help books. They started using this disorder in their books as a bogeyman. They said people with this disorder are living among us, stealing our energy and resources and making us weak. Basically just a reskinned version of the antisemitic conspiracy theory.
These narratives became so popular that people started using the slur for a person who has the disorder without even knowing they were talking about a disorder. They thought it was just a word for a certain kind of bad person. Like how kids in the 90s used the R word.
You heard that word and didn’t realise it was a slur, and you used it to describe your parents.
The word is “n*rcisisst”
sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 hours ago
I mean, I’m autistic, and I’m pretty sure I can outdo you on how autism (and apsbergers) was literally invented by literal Nazis, to literally torture, ostracize, maim, and murder Jewish children.
… but …
Words exist and their meanings change overtime.
Autism Spectrum Disorder is a thing.
Narcissistic Personality Disorder is a thing.
They have APA definitions, they’re defined in the DSM.
Are these definitions perfect?
No.
… Do they mean things though, convey a general concept, maybe a specific diagnostic one, in more technical contexts?
Yes.
I’m not gonna stop using the word narcissist because you think it’s antisemitic, that its a racist slur.
Because it isn’t.
That you think it is, that’s rather strange.
Is there some other word we should use to denote… very self-centered, very egoistic, very egotistical, unable to take criticism or admit mistake, constantly neg everyone around them, have obviously hypocritical standards and demands and needs, need constant adulation and attention, are very grandiose, lack empathy despite constantly demanding it?
In case you are unfamilair with the concept, beyond simply only Lasch:
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Narcissism
en.wikipedia.org/…/Narcissistic_personality_disor…
www.mayoclinic.org/…/syc-20366662