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• dzsimbo@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Was OP being shitty with their comment?

  I guess birthing is a hot topic or maybe even a dog whistle in the anti-trans community. Just from OP’s deleted comments, I’d say they weren’t hating.

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  • curbstickle@anarchist.nexus ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Was OP being shitty with their comment?

    Yes.

    Whether it was intentional or not. I mentioned elsewhere that there are cis folks who can’t have children. So that comment was shitty to a wider group than just trans folks. Its also pretty common terf stuff.

    It also broke the rules for both the instance and the community.

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    • dzsimbo@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      Thanks for the reply. I see I am going against the grain here, so apologies if this comes through as hard-headed, but I still don’t get the violation.

      Was the problem that OP was talking in general about the importance of being able to give birth? It doesn’t seem to diss trans or sterile people, just mentions that it can be important. Or is OP saying it is important, and that’s the problem?

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      • curbstickle@anarchist.nexus ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        It doesn’t seem to diss trans or sterile people, just mentions that it can be important. Or is OP saying it is important, and that’s the problem?

        The comment was made in that it suggests trans women are not women. As well as cis women who can’t have children not being women, though unintentionally.

        The comment was a specific callout to separate trans women from women in general. Intention is irrelevant, a distinction was made, though despite being about trans women, it was a distinction with no bearing or value on the definition of a woman.

        Its a very common talking point for terfs, as well. It is not a new or original attack on trans women, but it is what it boils down to - an attack on trans women.

        One that doesnt make sense after a bit of thought is applied either.

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      • Zoomboingding@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        I was indeed just stating that it can be important (e.g. it’s important your doctor knows you’re trans), but obviously I was a dumbass for trying to make my point this way.

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  • mech@feddit.org ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Yes. Blahaj is not a place to debate whether trans women are real women.

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• SharkAttak@kbin.melroy.org ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Or I could be perceived as shitty even if I don't intend to, and get blasted...
  Better safe than sorry.

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