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• raptorattacks@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  Multiple answers to that question:

  • There are women on Grindr - in my experience, mostly trans women or m/f couples looking for a third. So men can find straight sex on Grindr, but it’s rare. Women are definitely a scant minority of the users.
  • There are plenty of “straight” men on Grindr. You’d have to ask them why - I usually block them.
  • The reason why dating apps marketed towards straight people don’t allow this kind of messaging (and the reason there aren’t more women on Grindr) is because women, generally speaking, won’t put up with the same kind of shit that gay men will. A straight dating app where men could send horny messages and dick pics to every woman they saw wouldn’t have any women using it.

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  • BanMe@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    The world lost untold weirdness when Craigslist took down their personals section, cause that’s where my down dirty girlfriends were getting the dick back in the day. You could go on and have your pick of dozens of guys in an hour. Generally they were real guys. Most were awful but they found some diamonds in the rough.

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    • blarghly@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

      You could go on and have your pick of dozens of guys in an hour.

      You can still do that on dating apps.

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  • Kolanaki@pawb.social ⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    Or it would have the horniest, sluttiest women in the world 🤷‍♂️

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    • blarghly@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

      Eh.

      1. Even dirty, slutty women don’t like constantly being give death and rape threats.
      2. There are not enough slutty women to meet demand. Even if a woman is banging 3 guys per day, either her roster will fill up instantly or (if she never bangs the same guy twice) the guys she has alreadh banged will be back in the market an hour after they blow their loads.
      3. Slutty women might want to fuck a lot, but they still have their preferences and will exercise them. Why fuck the overweight, balding McDonald’s worker when you can fuck a finance bro with a six pack and a razor-sharp jawline? And if you are that finance bro, why would you be on an app with so few women (as per, (2))? Most women will gravitate towards platforms where they feel safe and respected (wrt normal cultural norms regarding sex), so the hot guys will be spending their time on these platforms since they are largely ambivalent to anything except the existance of a suitably large and attractive female population.

      I’ll note that this is essentially the dynamic at play on fetlife. We already have a real life example of how this works out, and no, it is not a utopia of abundant pussy for every horny dude, but rather the opposite - fetlife is well known for having worse outcomes for straight guys than mainstream dating platforms, because women simply don’t respond to (almost any) messages on the platform.

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