Well I consider talking to strangers in public a waste of time, so what now?
RaivoKulli@sopuli.xyz 2 months ago
For every second you have your headphones in on the train, you’re not talking to anybody and you’re not taking in the world. For every one of those seconds, how much of your life do you let pass by?" one man asked.
Lmao what the fuck
Psythik@lemmy.world 2 months ago
optissima@lemmy.ml 2 months ago
For every one of those seconds, how much of your life do you let pass by?" one man asked.
Well, one second I’d estimate
RaivoKulli@sopuli.xyz 2 months ago
Every 60 seconds, a minute passes in Africa.
jve@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Dear god.
someacnt@sh.itjust.works 1 month ago
Together we can stop this.
Spiffyman@slrpnk.net 2 months ago
That was my first thought as well, but I think he means things, not time. You miss this thing and that as you stare at your phone. So in that second of mindless scrolling, you missed things around you that might have added something to your day, to your life. So ‘how much of your life do you let pass by’ is not asking how many seconds of life did you let pass by (though that is the first thought upon reading), but ‘how many things that could have affected your life- for the better or worse- do you let pass you by?’
null@piefed.nullspace.lol 2 months ago
Probably should have said “looking at your phone” instead of “have your headphones on”.
optissima@lemmy.ml 2 months ago
Yeah I totally get what he’s saying here and do agree with the message overall, just thought that was a funny way to put it.
expr@programming.dev 1 month ago
Sounds like a pretty legitimate question.
nightlily@leminal.space 1 month ago
I think Germans would prefer if I stabbed them than talked to them on the train.
gerryflap@feddit.nl 1 month ago
Yeah that’s a bit much tbh. Personally I find the train to be way too loud usually. Other people talking, train noises, maybe a screaming baby or something. I’ll just listen to some music and stare out of the window (if it isn’t dark).
blimthepixie@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 months ago
I watch the scenery.
ArsonButCute@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 months ago
Its a call to be present.
There is nothing inherently wrong with wearing headphones on the train, but ask yourself why you’re doing it.
If you put on Headphones to keep people from talking to you, you’re making the choice to opt out of the human experience.?Make that choice every day on a 45 minute commute and after only a week 7.5 hours where you’ve opted out of chance encounter, conversation, possibly meeting a new friend or partner. It might not be a bad idea to make the choice to NOT disconnect, actively choosing to engage in the world around us makes a huge difference in how we percieve it, and how it percieves us.
An experiment I’d suggest, if you’re the type to default to using your phone as an idle activity:
Next time you’re idle and get the urge to pull out your phone, instead look around you and find the most interesting thing you can see. Why is it interesting? Is there anything abnormal about it? Is it’s place significant? Take that and note it in your mind, have a conversation with a coworker about it later. Then take note, how did this pointless conversation make me feel?
Being present by choice, especially if done often, will create chances to engage with the World, and its inhabitants.
The other day someone told me life was boring. Put the phone down, make more than the 2 meter cone you can see from around your phone visible, and you’ll find the World has a lot of engagement to offer.
RaivoKulli@sopuli.xyz 2 months ago
I don’t any randos talking to me on the train. Commute is worse enough without people trying to “connect with me” during it.
jve@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Lots of research shows that social interactions are far more enjoyable than people expect them to be.
psychologytoday.com/…/if-socializing-is-so-good-f…
RaivoKulli@sopuli.xyz 2 months ago
I expect it not to happen and hope it stays that way since. Please jusr don’t bother me while I’m on the train
boonhet@sopuli.xyz 2 months ago
It’s like 90% drunk homeless people that talk to you on trains and buses though. It gets tiring.
If I want chance encounters with sober people, I’ll go to the bar. I mean eventually the people there get drunk too, but it’s a nice “5 hours and 10 beers” drunk not “what month and/or year is it” drunk.
aceshigh@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Or getting hit on. I’m just trying to go home, I have no desire to chat with you. I’m busy go away.
ArsonButCute@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 months ago
That’s kinda what I’m saying though. Those aren’t randos! They’re other people taking the same commute as you, every day. Make a connection with one and you might start to notice them more. Maybe you have a similar hobby or interest.
Give people a chance to enter your life and they often become more than randos on the train. Maybe you find a commute partner, someone to chat with or bitch to about Jane in Accounting.
I’m not gonna try to convince you, Clearly you saw my point and chose to reject it, that’s your choice. I’d urge you to give different thinking a chance though.
RaivoKulli@sopuli.xyz 2 months ago
They’re random people I most likely have never seen before and probably won’t ever see again. I live in the city, not a small town where everyone knows each other. The idea of trying to connect with the poor sobs who ended up in the same train as me sounds both crazy and draining as fuck. Not the least bit because where I live, most people cherish that moment to themselves and you’d be fucking that up and bothering them.
If I was commuting with the same four people every day I’d be more likely to talk to them but not in a full ass train with random people.
pycorax@sh.itjust.works 2 months ago
Great if your culture encourages that I guess? I do that in East Asia and I’ll get weird stares from everyone. And they’ll ask you to mind your own business which, I agree. It’s basic respect here to not talk on the train.