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RaivoKulli@sopuli.xyz ⁨9⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

• blimthepixie@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨hour⁩ ago

  I watch the scenery.

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• ArsonButCute@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨9⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  Its a call to be present.

  There is nothing inherently wrong with wearing headphones on the train, but ask yourself why you’re doing it.

  If you put on Headphones to keep people from talking to you, you’re making the choice to opt out of the human experience.?Make that choice every day on a 45 minute commute and after only a week 7.5 hours where you’ve opted out of chance encounter, conversation, possibly meeting a new friend or partner. It might not be a bad idea to make the choice to NOT disconnect, actively choosing to engage in the world around us makes a huge difference in how we percieve it, and how it percieves us.

  An experiment I’d suggest, if you’re the type to default to using your phone as an idle activity:

  Next time you’re idle and get the urge to pull out your phone, instead look around you and find the most interesting thing you can see. Why is it interesting? Is there anything abnormal about it? Is it’s place significant? Take that and note it in your mind, have a conversation with a coworker about it later. Then take note, how did this pointless conversation make me feel?

  Being present by choice, especially if done often, will create chances to engage with the World, and its inhabitants.

  The other day someone told me life was boring. Put the phone down, make more than the 2 meter cone you can see from around your phone visible, and you’ll find the World has a lot of engagement to offer.

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  • pycorax@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨hour⁩ ago

    Great if your culture encourages that I guess? I do that in East Asia and I’ll get weird stares from everyone. And they’ll ask you to mind your own business which, I agree. It’s basic respect here to not talk on the train.

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  • RaivoKulli@sopuli.xyz ⁨8⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    I don’t any randos talking to me on the train. Commute is worse enough without people trying to “connect with me” during it.

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    • jve@lemmy.world ⁨6⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      Lots of research shows that social interactions are far more enjoyable than people expect them to be.

      psychologytoday.com/…/if-socializing-is-so-good-f…

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      • RaivoKulli@sopuli.xyz ⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

        I expect it not to happen and hope it stays that way since. Please jusr don’t bother me while I’m on the train

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      • boonhet@sopuli.xyz ⁨4⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

        It’s like 90% drunk homeless people that talk to you on trains and buses though. It gets tiring.

        If I want chance encounters with sober people, I’ll go to the bar. I mean eventually the people there get drunk too, but it’s a nice “5 hours and 10 beers” drunk not “what month and/or year is it” drunk.

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    • aceshigh@lemmy.world ⁨6⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      Or getting hit on. I’m just trying to go home, I have no desire to chat with you. I’m busy go away.

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    • ArsonButCute@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨7⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      That’s kinda what I’m saying though. Those aren’t randos! They’re other people taking the same commute as you, every day. Make a connection with one and you might start to notice them more. Maybe you have a similar hobby or interest.

      Give people a chance to enter your life and they often become more than randos on the train. Maybe you find a commute partner, someone to chat with or bitch to about Jane in Accounting.

      I’m not gonna try to convince you, Clearly you saw my point and chose to reject it, that’s your choice. I’d urge you to give different thinking a chance though.

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      • RaivoKulli@sopuli.xyz ⁨7⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

        They’re random people I most likely have never seen before and probably won’t ever see again. I live in the city, not a small town where everyone knows each other. The idea of trying to connect with the poor sobs who ended up in the same train as me sounds both crazy and draining as fuck. Not the least bit because where I live, most people cherish that moment to themselves and you’d be fucking that up and bothering them.

        If I was commuting with the same four people every day I’d be more likely to talk to them but not in a full ass train with random people.

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• Psythik@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  Well I consider talking to strangers in public a waste of time, so what now?

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• optissima@lemmy.ml ⁨8⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  For every one of those seconds, how much of your life do you let pass by?" one man asked.

  Well, one second I’d estimate

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  • RaivoKulli@sopuli.xyz ⁨8⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Every 60 seconds, a minute passes in Africa.

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    • jve@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      Dear god.

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  • Spiffyman@slrpnk.net ⁨8⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    That was my first thought as well, but I think he means things, not time. You miss this thing and that as you stare at your phone. So in that second of mindless scrolling, you missed things around you that might have added something to your day, to your life. So ‘how much of your life do you let pass by’ is not asking how many seconds of life did you let pass by (though that is the first thought upon reading), but ‘how many things that could have affected your life- for the better or worse- do you let pass you by?’

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    • null@piefed.nullspace.lol ⁨7⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      Probably should have said “looking at your phone” instead of “have your headphones on”.

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    • optissima@lemmy.ml ⁨7⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      Yeah I totally get what he’s saying here and do agree with the message overall, just thought that was a funny way to put it.

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