Yeah, that’s great if it’s just a hang, but that’s not what this was. This was clearly supposed to be a serious date, the kind that hopefully leads to a relationship, sex, a life together, marriage, kids, retirement, etc.
If I’m taking a girl out for a nice romantic dinner, I’m expecting a certain sort of meeting, and I’m willing to pay significantly more to create the atmosphere in which we can open up and start to explore the idea of a future.
But if she decides she wants to bring a friend, that changes everything. Now the entire dynamic of the date has changed, and we can’t have the kind of personal conversation I’d like to have (and she would want to have, if she was being honest about accepting the date), and splurging on a fancy restaurant is a waste.
If she decides that she’d rather have a fun, casual hang-out, that’s fine, but I was looking for a serious date. I’m not willing to spend the same kind of money on a friendly hang-out as I would on a serious date, and it’s pretty offensive that my date has unilaterally decided that we won’t be having a serious date, we will have a casual hang-out with her friend, but they still expect me to pay for it as if it was that original serious date.
She did not accept this date in Good Faith, and he is under no obligation to indulge her disingenuous behavior. He’s actually lucky that her true nature became apparent BEFORE he spent a lot of money on her. Save that for a girl who isn’t a predator.
SoftestSapphic@lemmy.world 5 days ago
Then join a club or something.
Dating isn’t about making friends.