She realised she wasn’t interested in you sexually, that’s all.
Comment on what are the grievances with the "male loneliness epidemic"?
Matriks404@lemmy.world 1 day ago
I don’t understand how it’s just “male loneliness epidemic” in the first place. It’s illogical.
That said, when I started to be more open to the girl I liked, she ghosted me, and it seems that she doesn’t even want talk to me anymore. It would be much easier if I get some feedback what I did wrong, but I guess it’s just men who need to be more open and communicative, not women.
bollybing@lemmynsfw.com 1 day ago
ameancow@lemmy.world 21 hours ago
Young internet men when they discover there are actually more kinds of attraction than just sexual and the reasons for people’s behavior can’t be easily summed up with generic, thought-dismissing lines meant to pander to cynicism.
aesthelete@lemmy.world 20 hours ago
It’s really been strange to me that my whole life people have insisted that it isn’t possible for men and women to be friends and that every relationship there has to be either sexual or sexually motivated.
I’m a bit of an odd ball in that I am straight, male, cisgendered and have basically always felt better hanging around girls since I was a child. However, I never felt like I could just have girls and women friends though because inevitably it would be implied from some direction that I actually just wanted them sexually.
I’ve also met very few guys that weren’t into talking about sex and women as soon as there were no women around, and I’m just plain uninterested in talking about sex with other guys.
So, instead now I’m married and I basically talk to no one.
Madzielle@lemmy.dbzer0.com 20 hours ago
My husband is similar to this. We only hang out with our family these days.
I was unsure when we first started dating, and he seemed to only have a couple female friends. But he introduced me, and they were lovely. He never sexualized women, never pressured me for sex, and feeling unsure soon wore off realizing he was extremely loyal after not long.
He’s withdrawn quite a bit since getting sober and older. I hung out at a small party one of his friends was having. He didn’t want to/couldn’t go, so I went.
Everyone was kind of dumb, they only talked about other people they knew, and told drunken stories about being drunk before- it was boring. I’m understanding why he withdrew from the crowd.
One guy showed me a tiktok of some Ai looking lady who recovered from drug addiction, praising her, this person he never met, telling me how good she looked now, clearly super excited about it (drunk af), all while his girlfriend sat right there. We’re all mid to lat 30’s. He acted like he was 15. I couldn’t handle it lol. The only friend I liked was his old BF, a girl who is like a sister to him. She doesn’t drink. This girl said she was drinking white wine, before I left the wine I brought for her in the fridge, I saw her bottle not even cracked open and laughed. Anyway.
You only need a few people to feel whole I find. My husband and his parents are great. That party felt like torture to me. But the tiktok guy and his gf were telling me about thier pool club. The play pool in the community a lot, and its definitely their third space. I may have found him dumb, but they had a whole crew of folks in their built community. I did compliment that. You gotta build the life you want.
bollybing@lemmynsfw.com 16 hours ago
Yeah it’s a fair criticism, we don’t have much information. “Being more open with” might be code for unloading emotional problems onto which might be a reason to ghost a potential friend. They might have been hit by a bus etc.
But ime ghosting typically happens to men and women when the other person was considering you as a potential sexual partner and has decided not to pursue it further.
With other kinds of relationships they usually fizzle out rather than suddenly disappear.
Honytawk@lemmy.zip 20 hours ago
Well, even that is just an assumption.
We’ll never truly know unless they say it.
Matriks404@lemmy.world 1 day ago
I don’t know, maybe. Still frustrating as hell.
zeropointone@lemmy.world 1 day ago
There is no reason to speak if others don’t listen.
chilicheeselies@lemmy.world 21 hours ago
You didnt do anything wrong if you were being yourself. I know it sounds corny but just being the best version of you is the best thing you can do, and if someone ghosts you like that they did you a favor. You dont want to be with someine like that; you just eant to be with the idea of the person you thought they were.
Still a bummer, but dont let a jerk define who you are.