Comment on Is it realistic to hope that lemmy grows to the size of the bigger social media platforms?
phanto@lemmy.ca 7 months ago
I liked the variety and sheer volume of content on the other one, but I have had a lot less of those horrible interactions on Lemmy. I kind of like it being small town.
The bizarre hostility of Reddit users is baffling. It’s like they’ve never interacted with a human being in real life and have no idea how to process an opinion that isn’t a 1:1 match of their own.
You could say something like “I love waffles! :D” and get a response that is like “Oh, so you hate pancakes then? Wow, you didn’t need to shit on every person that loves pancakes.”
Debate me bros are the worst.
I’ve tried being more empathetic when I reply to people, and that generally gets productive results. But, I’m just as guilty for thinking worse of people when they reply to me than I should.
I dunno if it’s a defence/offence thing. Perhaps I’m more prepared for conflict and can interrupt negative impulses.
There are definitely guys like that here too
Most of them are trolls. Some are cantankerous normal people, but most are probably getting paid or are bots. Anger gets engagement and division helps Russia, China, etc. It’s a win-win for reddit.
I’ve definitely seen more trolls and significantly more racist/transphobic people even in just the last few months which is worrying. Maybe it’s like Baader Meinhof effect cause I started tagging them, but it’s certainly frustrating because this site used to feel a lot more friendly.
The idea that some people may have me tagged makes me a little nervous, and feel like maybe I should behave a bit more.
Still cant help shitposting…
I’m gonna tag you as “unwilling tagee”
Also if it helps, I don’t only tag rude or racist people, I also tag people that say something I enjoy or makes me laugh so one day when I see them again I can give them a compliment.
I’ve tagged you as Chronic Tagger.
There are downsides to small-town life, though. Some of my views don't match the ones that are prevalent here, so I either end up getting hammered with downvotes or self-censoring when certain topics of discussion come up. And unlike Reddit it's not a big and diverse enough place that I can just go find a sub-community that is more tolerant.
Lemmy IS the sub-community! I suspect that you and I would have at least a few disagreements then! Hah!
Precisely this. The more people come here, the more of the judgemental shitheads are going to come too. I’ve encountered a few on here already but nothing like back there.
I’ve also yet to come across censorship favoring fascists here.
Also a good point.
HaveMeOnYourPodcast@lemmy.world 7 months ago
I would like to stop being banned arbitrarily for “ban evasion” when I was never banned in the first place. That hasn’t happened here yet lol…