Comment on Is it safe to assume the guy i went out on a date with, just wants to sleep with me?

• arumi@endlesstalk.org ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  I don’t want to assume things, i thought it’s a date but I wasn’t sure. I have all reasons to believe it’s not a date unless he specifically mentions it. He only said if i am free on Saturday, let’s grab lunch

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  • CallMeAnAI@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    No. You’re being a poor communicator. Here and with this man. A date not explicitly being called a date is very common, you have made assumptions with this, and seem to be pushing back on most folks saying you need to communicate better. Read the room and realize you’re inexperienced.

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    • arumi@endlesstalk.org ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      So should I just ask him directly that why is he asking me to hangout with him one on one? What are his intentions? Will he not be offended?

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      • null@lemmy.nullspace.lol ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        So should I just ask him directly that why is he asking me to hangout with him one on one?

        Literally yes.

        Will he not be offended?

        If he’s offended by open, clear communication, that’s a good sign you shouldn’t continue trying to be friends anyways.

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      • Crazyslinkz@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        Yes. Clear communication is important.

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      • CallMeAnAI@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        Correct. He may react in any number of ways and you cannot control that. A normal healthy reaction will be an open conversation. They also might call you a bitch. They might react cool now only to try again in 2 weeks. This is part of dating unfortunately.

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  • protist@mander.xyz ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    I don’t think that at all, I have great friends of both genders. My point is you need to communicate with him, because you came in here thinking it was probably a date and asking us whether he wanted to sleep with you.

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    • arumi@endlesstalk.org ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      I came here to get advice. Isn’t that what people do in such platforms?

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      • protist@mander.xyz ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        if your reason for going out with him is to be friends, communicate that

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