Sure does sound pretty toxic.
Comment on Women Dating Safety App 'Tea' Breached, Users' IDs Posted to 4chan
DrSteveBrule@mander.xyz 3 days agoI agree 100% that women face many more dangers especially in the dating scene than men. I’m all for having resources available for them to remain as safe as possible.
I don’t see how a Rate My Professor type app would work well for dates. I feel like people would only spend the time to rate poor dates. If you had a really good date with someone, you would presumably start dating them so why would you let everyone else know they are a good person to go out with? I have no doubt there are some awful people out there that others should be warned about, but this type of app is a bit too risky to justify that in my opinion.
The background check feature sounds much more legit, but I don’t think a group chat feature needs to exist along side it.
All that being said, anyone enjoying the doxxing of others is just an asshole. There’s definitely nothing fair about it from either side.
null_dot@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 days ago
dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 days ago
yeah, the app has obvious flaws, and the Rate My Professor style approach succeeds or fails depending on the quality of the users and moderators, and could easily be useless or become toxic - either way, I’m not defending this aspect of the app, it’s clearly problematic.
Regardless I understand why women would want a resource like this, and that doesn’t seem true for those in the comments who see the doxxing as deserved for using this app.
Nevermind the rest of the context, like 4chan being a bastion of right-wing, misogynist trolls who would target an app like this for political reasons. Lemmy users approving on 4chan doxxing of women is a major red flag … it might have something to do with how many Lemmy users come here for being banned for their behavior on Reddit. Reddit isn’t sending their best and brightest, and it shows.
echodot@feddit.uk 2 days ago
There is absolutely no problem checking out a perspective date for criminal records or if they’re on the sex offenders register. But they don’t need an app to do that they can just reverse image search on Google themselves.
The app added that to give legitimacy to its gossip feature. If lots of women have been on a date with the same guy and all have a story to tell that story is going to get told regardless of whether there’s an app enabling it or not.
Men not being able to even view the content on the platform and see if anybody is posting about them is an inherent problem with the fundamental design of the app.