Comment on Women Dating Safety App 'Tea' Breached, Users' IDs Posted to 4chan

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mic_check_one_two@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

Men are not going to win this battle and prove they are better than women in this regard because the men who would misuse such an app are solidly in the majority.

I think there’s also a lot of confirmation bias, in the sense that you need to consider why people would seek out such an app. Why would women seek out a women-only app? And inversely, why would men seek out a men-only app? The answer to each will be fundamentally different, which means the user bases will be fundamentally different as well.

Basically, what types of women would go out of their way to engage with a women-only app? Changes are good that the average woman has probably had the thought before, and is doing so to try and stay safe. The active engagement is seen as a positive thing, and she’s willing to jump through a few hoops (like uploading a photo ID) to get there.

Now imagine the inverse. Most guys probably wouldn’t even think of a men-only app for safety reasons. Like it’s not even on their radar, because safety while dating isn’t something they’re concerned with. So the pool of men who would be willing to go out of their way to engage with a men-only app is going to look vastly different. The average user likely won’t reflect the average man, because the average man wouldn’t even think to seek out a men-only app. Or if he does, he doesn’t feel strongly enough about it to jump through any hoops to engage. It means the average user would most likely be one of the extremely toxic manosphere/men’s rights advocate/creep/etc stereotypes instead.

To be clear, this isn’t a “not all men” post. Because the reality is that it’s certainly enough men to be concerning. My point is simply that the confirmation bias will be a large factor in whether or not the user base actually reflects the average person.

It’s basically the same way the average Lemmy user doesn’t reflect the average person. If you looked at the average Lemmy user and tried to print that into society, you’d expect the average person to be much more liberal than they really are.

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