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Banana@sh.itjust.works 2 days agoAt least your username is accurate.
Love isn’t something you can just show somebody and provide empirical proof of, you have to change your perspective to recognize it, because it’s everywhere.
You seem to be in a really not-great place emotionally speaking and that is probably preventing you from being vulnerable with people. Vulnerability is necessary to building deeper connections with people.
My advice whether you’re willing to hear it or not is to get used to feeling vulnerable and uncomfortable and open yourself up to people, or you will never build deeper connections.
Whether you believe me or not, I won’t be suffering, but opening up may help prevent further suffering on your part.
captain_aggravated@sh.itjust.works 1 day ago
So your advice is to allow myself to be blackmailed. “If you loved me, you’d waste months worth of pay on a shiny rock I’m going to completely take for granted.” Fuck off.
Schadrach@lemmy.sdf.org 22 hours ago
Apparently I married a unicorn. She explicitly didn’t want a diamond but a sapphire and explicitly didn’t want me to spend a fortune on it. Got her ring from an online jeweler on sale. Paid less than $300 for it. During the first Trump admin. We had talked about what she wanted and I found something close after shopping around. Then I held onto it for six months planning when to ask.
Banana@sh.itjust.works 1 day ago
Did I ever say to buy someone a ring? I’ve been with my partner for 11 years and we don’t even know if we want to get married, so i am absolutely not telling anyone else whether they should get engaged. What I do know is marriage wouldnt change my relationship because marriage doesn’t make love.
Being vulnerable has nothing to do with money. Becoming vulnerable does mean opening yourself up to possible hurt, but nothing that good comes without taking some kind of risk. Being risk averse will keep you from getting hurt, but it would also serve as a barrier to one of the best things in life you could experience. Also, platonic love is a thing, this doesn’t have to be romantic yknow. It could be as little as telling a friend about your feelings.