Comment on We all sleep alone soundly; Maybe the key to a happy marriage is separate beds
Madzielle@lemmy.dbzer0.com 8 months ago
I struggle to sleep without my husband. I need my feet to touch his, at least. We share a queen bed, even use the same blanket (it is a King blanket though). Im really surprised so many folks don’t sleep in the same bed at their partner here. Nothing wrong with it, I’m just surprised.
Maybe things will change when we are older, but I couldn’t imagine.
We do the same, she’ll have a foot touching my ankle and I’ll have a hand touching her hip. Sometimes her toenails are stabby and I roll away but she seeks me out in her sleep lol.
Occasionally I’ll sleep on the couch if I have a sinus headache as it is more upright to promote drainage, but vast majority of time we sleep together.
I am kind of incredulous that anyone actually sleeps better with a whole separate person in the bed. It gets too hot and you both wake up whenever the other one uses the bathroom, or if you don't go to bed at the same time, or if you don't get up at the same time. Just from those basics mechanics it seems to defy logic that actual sleep quality, beyond some intangible aesthetic, wouldn't be negatively impacted.
I have terrible insomnia, I have misophonia, and I am a light sleeper. My partner talks in his sleep, he’s a furnace, and a loud breather, but I’ll tell you, nothing conks me out like turning over and being the big spoon on that guy. When he’s out of town it’s harder (or at least less comfortable) to fall asleep. Sometimes when I really really can’t sleep for hours, I’ll reach over and just hold his limp sleeping hand and it helps.
He can fall asleep anywhere and sleep through anything though. If we were both poor sleepers, idk what we’d do.
Usually we both have to pee around 2am, so the wake up is not a bother. We also are used to each other’s alarms, so aren’t woken by the other.
burntbacon@discuss.tchncs.de 8 months ago
I wish I could sleep in the same bed as my partner (forever, not just the rare nights when we try). It’s lovely to have the physical touch as I fall asleep. Unfortunately I toss, turn, and sometimes wake up in cold sweats from nightmares, so it’s better for both of us to have the separate beds.
Madzielle@lemmy.dbzer0.com 8 months ago
My husband used to have night terrors before he got sober. That shit was scary! He would sleep talk, and not sound human. I’ll never forget I woke up early one day while he stayed asleep and I heard him yelling “help” over and over. I was so scared, I ran to him, and woke him.
Thank goodness it stopped when he got sober. I feel for anyone who gets night terrors, it’s no fun