If you are young and attractive and the only other context you have for sex is porn the belief is understandable. Its emotionally immature view that I’m glad she grew out of AND decided to write an article about to help others.
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Ilandar@lemmy.today 2 days ago
Because it shattered something I’d long believed: that only certain people get to be sexual. That desire is reserved for the abled, the attractive, the young. That illness cancels it out.
Seems like a very strange belief to have held in the first place (with respect to prostitution), even with her medical condition. It’s quite obvious that if you open up sex and intimacy to anyone who can pay for it, there will be zero restrictions on the type of clientele. That’s the entire point of the service.
figjam@midwest.social 2 days ago
FundMECFSResearch@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 day ago
Yet as a disabled person it’s a belief that society constantly projects onto you.
Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de 1 day ago
also the fact that old people when left to their devices will start having kinky sex is a pretty common joke
Whats_your_reasoning@lemmy.world 1 day ago
When I worked in a nursing home, there absolutely were residents who tried to sneak off together. I don’t know if any sex actually happened (I doubt it, since these people needed assistance getting out of their wheelchairs), but people definitely got touchy-feely when they could.
There was a triad in one of the units. A quiet man, who rarely spoke and mostly chilled out by himself, managed to get two girlfriends. Sometimes they’d sit together and he’d hold each of their hands at the same time. The women would sometimes sneak a quick reach for other parts of his body, as he sat there with this big smile on his face.
I figured it was none of my business, and I guess the rest of the staff felt the same way. They were all consenting and they kept their clothes on, so if granny can cop quick feel, who am I to judge? I was just glad they had found a way to be happy while living in such a depressing place.
474D@lemmy.world 2 days ago
Agreed, really is a super sheltered view of sexuality, it’s basically impossible to keep all kinds of people from fucking in general
Tenderizer@aussie.zone 2 days ago
I read that as less of a “belief” and more of an “assumption”. Most people don’t think about paraplegic sex at any point on their life, so her assumption went unquestioned until she was prompted to by sex work.
driving_crooner@lemmy.eco.br 1 day ago
This reminds me a series of “porn” pictures of a paraplegic couple having sex that sometimes pass around on the internet. It was like the third time I saw them that I leat that the pictures were requested from the couple itself to be shared on the disability community, to show up that disability dosen’t mean an asexual life.