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Mouselemming@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

So use any one of the multitudinous other phrases available in English to actually HELP them become calmer or less agitated. Respond to the facts of the individual situation instead. “He’s not worth it.” “You’re better than this/you have been doing so much better, don’t let this set you back.” “You’re in a bad trip man, gonna have to ride it out as easy as you can.” “Chill, dude.” “Take a deep breath.” (This may be followed by one loud long scream, but that’s cathartic and may be followed by rational behavior)

Nobody, no matter how much they need to get control over their emotions and behavior, needs to “calm down”.

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brown567@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago
I’ve found that “you’re embarrassing yourself” usually produces results with a large magnitude and a highly variable direction

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- Lv_InSaNe_vL@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago
  I’ve said “nobody wants to hear your bullshit” which also tends to have a very large effect. Which way the effect swings is completely unknowable but the dynamic will be very different after haha
  
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ArgumentativeMonotheist@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago
You need to relax…

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- Mouselemming@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago
  You are getting sleeeeepy…
  
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  - supergrizzlybear@pawb.social ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago
    the suns getting real low
    
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    Mouselemming@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago
    That’s a good one!
    
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- sundray@lemmus.org ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago
  … don’t do it.
  
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Kusimulkku@lemm.ee ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago
It’s funny how upset some get over the phrase when in fact they really do need to calm down. You need to use some roundabout term for it, “chill”, even though it means the same thing.

Interesting thing

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