Comment on Mom sues porn sites (Including Chaturbate, Jerkmate, Superporn and Hentaicity) for noncompliance with Kansas age assurance law; Teen can no longer enjoy life after mom caught him visiting Chaturbate

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• breecher@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  Even if you love porn and grew up exposed to it as a kid, you gotta admit that there are psychological effects on avid adult viewers and more on minors.

  No you don’t. That is right wing propaganda completely unfounded by science. That porn addiction nonsense so many Americans babble about is a product of that propaganda, and doesn’t actually exist.

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  • venusaur@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    Wow. You don’t think porn addiction exists? Said like a true porn addict.

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    • mfed1122@discuss.tchncs.de ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

      If every person who disagrees with you counts as further evidence that you’re right, then you’re thinking in an unfalsifiable manner, which is the basis for many a flawed conclusion. It doesn’t necessarily make you wrong, but you should really make sure to find justifications for your beliefs that are based on falsifiable reasoning instead. That’s the best way to know if what you’re believing is right or wrong, because you can try to falsify your beliefs in the way that you them to be falsifiable, and if they still couldn’t be falsified, then you can say “Well, I tried to disprove this, and it still passed that test!”

      So, let me ask you this, what would, hypothetically, suffice to prove or at least suggest evidence that porn addiction does not exist? If your answer is “nothing”, then you’re in unfalsifiable territory.

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      • venusaur@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

        Disproving all evidence that sex and porn addiction does exist.

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• KelvarIW@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  I was sex-negative until recent years due to Catholic conditioning mixing with unlabeled asexuality. Seeing the rising movements against porngraphy has driven me to veer strongly sex-positive, especially after the 2024 USAmerican election.

  An “anti-pornography” movement is incredibly dangerous because it can leverage that label to steamroll through anything “for the children” and ward off all but the strongest and loudest criticism. It’s a lot like “Mothers Against Drunk Driving”. Every Politician fears being the lone dissenter on a “for the children” bill; No judge wants to seen as soft on “children accessing porn”.

  Porn may be “transforming how people relate to sex and themselves”. The anti-porn movement is working to rip away digital privacy, trying to destroy LGBTQIA+ lives, and will squash free artistic expression. Think of any work of art that ever includes nudity, or ever depicts sex - through text, imagery or video. Now imagine defending its “artistic value” to an armed soldier who stormed in your house, or being badgered by a prosecutor in front of a judge and panel of 12.

  “Anti-porn” or “Anti-kids accessing porn” legislation are the legislative equivalent of setting off a firecracker in your mouth to stop a toothache. I remain baffled every time I see support for this from “progressive” online spaces and voices, especially considering that we are living under the Republican regime, Right Now.

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  • echodot@feddit.uk ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    I remain baffled every time I see support for this from “progressive” online spaces and voices

    It’s just people not using their brains, everything is just viewed at its surface level with no deeper analysis ever conducted. They are the sort of idiots that think that Starship Troopers is profascism.

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    • Vanth@reddthat.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

      People that like Fight Club, American Psycho, and Starship Troopers… k, but like, do you get it or are you a nut job?

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  • venusaur@lemmy.world ⁨17⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    I understand your point of view. These conservative law-makers are hiding their true intentions, but you’re only allowing yourself to think about porn restriction in the lens of current day right-wing politicians. The intent to put more restrictions on porn is not a one way street.

    Your analogy to banning artistic freedom is like saying putting restrictions on alcohol is a slippery slope that’s going to eventually have you explaining to a soldier why you have kombucha.

    There are so many variations of porn. Some porn is dangerous to be consumed by children and even adults, especially when consumed compulsively through addiction. Maybe not dangerous to straight cis men, but dangerous to almost the entire half of society. I believe that is why it’s so hard to put any restrictions on porn. Straight cis men are clutching onto their undiagnosed porn addictions as hard as they can and using right wing laws to make hasty generalizations about porn restriction leading to the Islamic Revolution.

    Also, congrats. Happy safe and healthy jerking.

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• magic_smoke@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  Not enough to warrant uploads of your fucking license.

  Also I really think its kind of goofy so many people are upset about porn when kids are exposed to violence in the media all the time.

  Not that I think violent video games are the devil, my first memory of a game was GTA III lol, but I think seeing violence is probably worse than seeing sex.

  At least if you take the American Puritan mindset out of it.

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  • SkyeStarfall@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    seeing violence is probably worse than seeing sex

    Yes, I mean, one is (ideally) about two (or more) people enjoying time they have together in an intimate way, the other is about hurting another maliciously. I certainly prefer one of these things to be more prominent than the other

    There is a discussion to be had about stuff like objectification and porn that doesn’t depict people like, consenting, and such, but at least in ideal I’d much rather have media that focuses on pleasure and love than hate and suffering

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    • venusaur@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

      Um, there is plenty of violence in porn…

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      • SkyeStarfall@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

        That’s mostly what I was referring to in my latter paragraph, yes

        But the important takeaway is that it’s not the core of what pornography is

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  • venusaur@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    I’m just saying there’s something good in restriction, not the way in which it’s being implemented. I think games like GTA are bad too.

    Parental controls are only effective if all parents control. Should alcohol and guns have no restrictions and be up to parents to control? Exactly.

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• Vanth@reddthat.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  you gotta admit that there are psychological effects on avid adult viewers and more on minors

  Citation needed when we’re talking about implementing laws and opening up lawsuits suing for $75k+. Multiple robust peer-reviewed citations needed. Preferably not funded by a Catholic church group.

  Also it’s a leap to say top-down privacy invading laws are the way the state or federal government should handle it instead of the concerned parent monitoring computer usage. There’s so many free and subscription based parental control tools out there. Comprehensive sex education would be a potential alternate way for the state to support parents and teens to educate them on porn consumption and safe internet usage.

  FYI, NCOSE, the group joining (likely funding) the lawsuit, is against comprehensive sex education.

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  • venusaur@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    You’re talking about a few separate things here.

    1. I never said this is how it should be implemented. I just said stricter guardrails on porn would do some good.
    2. evidence is needed when creating laws. Yes
    3. when a law is already in effect, breaking the law does not require evidence to prove the law should exist. It requires evidence that the law was broken.

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• hansolo@lemm.ee ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  Not sure why you’re getting down voted. Porn can absolutely become a behavioral addiction.

  I used to work at a place where we had a lobby guard that watched porn on his phone all day (sound off). Not sitting there trying to jerk it, it was a compulsion. He would just be watching it while talking to other people, standing by the door…it was weird. He eventually got fired because he genuinely couldn’t not watch porn.

  That being said, I’m a huge privacy advocate, and while there are actually ways to anonymously be on a website and verify age, that’s not how anyone is doing it. Things like signing up for an account on a site and scanning your ID are just abysmally stupid. There’s a zero percent chance that this system as is doesnt lead to data theft and possibly even extortion.

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  • Vanth@reddthat.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    Sounds like a better state-backed initiative would be to make mental health services available to this dude and to anyone else dealing with addiction issues. Especially since I assume this door guard was older than 18 and age verification, no matter how private, would have done nothing to stop his access to porn.

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    • hansolo@lemm.ee ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

      Also true, no doubt there.

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  • ipkpjersi@lemmy.ml ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    That being said, I’m a huge privacy advocate, and while there are actually ways to anonymously be on a website and verify age

    How would that work? I’m not well-researched on this particular topic, so I’m curious how that would work.

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    • echodot@feddit.uk ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

      I don’t think I’ve ever seen a single suggestion of a way to implement age verification that isn’t a privacy nightmare. Oftentimes they literally just want a credit card number, the assumption being that a child would never be able to get hold of such a thing.

      In some of the worst cases they actually want a passport or other government ID sending to some organisation that would verify you. With all the fun potential data breaches that that would ensue.

      Most of the time these rules never get off the ground because privacy advocacy groups basically sue over it and win every time.

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      • ipkpjersi@lemmy.ml ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

        That’s more or less what I was implying, there’s not really any good way to implement it. Canada almost ended up implementing it, but thankfully Poilievre ended up losing the election including losing his own seat.

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      • hansolo@lemm.ee ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

        Tokenization is the easy solution.

        You go onto you state gov website and get a token that just says “this is an adult.” Nothing else. Token lasts 10 minutes.

        Cut and paste into the site. They authenticate without saying who theu are, back to the gov site, “yo, this legit?” State says “looks like something we would do.” State keeps no records of WHO validated the token, just that it was a legit token.

        Same way that routers connect to VPN services.

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    • magic_smoke@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

      Key signing maybe?

      You get a cert which is cryptographically signed by your government. They can prove its signed with the governments root cert, showing that its someone over 18, but not who.

      That being said the key identifiers will probably still be attached to you in some government db, just not on the porn site.

      Though the government could force the pornsite to hand over any logged ids. Some people would say that’s private, as they trust the government not to do stuff without a judges warrant.

      As a trans woman relying on HIPPA to not be put on a list of those on HRT, I don’t really trust that much more, to be honest.

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      • ArchRecord@lemm.ee ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

        They can prove its signed with the governments root cert, showing that its someone over 18, but not who.

        This is generally a pretty decent system in concept, but it has some unique flaws.

        A similar system is even being developed by Cloudflare (“Privacy Pass”) to make CAPTCHAs more private by allowing you to anonymously redeem “tokens” proving you’ve solved a CAPTCHA recently, without the CAPTCHA provider having to track any data about you across sites.

        They know someone who had solved a captcha recently is redeeming a token, but they don’t know who.

        This type of system will always have one core problem that really can’t be fixed though, which is the sale and transfer of authenticated tokens/keys/whatever they get called in a given implementation.

        Someone could simply take their signed cert, and allow anybody else to use it. If you allow the government to view whoever is using their keys, but not the porn sites, then you give the government a database of every porn user with easily timestamped logs. If you don’t give the government that ability, even one cert being shared defeats the whole system. If you add a rate limit to try and solve the previous problem, you can end up blocking access if a site, browser, or extension, is just slightly misconfigured in how it handles requesting the cert, or could break someone’s ability to use their cert the moment it gets leaked.

        And even if someone isn’t voluntarily offering up their cert, it will simply get sold. I’ve investigated sites selling IDs and SSNs for less than a dollar a piece before, and I doubt something even less consequential like an ID just for accessing online adult content would even sell for that much.

        I’ve seen other methods before, such as “anonymous” scans of your face where processing is done locally to prove you’re an adult, then the result of the cryptographic challenge is sent back proving you’re over 18, but that would fail anyone who looks younger but is still an adult, can be bypassed by the aforementioned sale of personal data to people wanting to verify, and is often easily fooled by videos and photos of people on YouTube, for example.

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  • venusaur@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    I totally agree. Everybody is misinterpreting what I’m saying into being an advocate for the ways they’re implementing the restrictions. They need a punching bag. I get it. I’ll be it.

    But some people here don’t want to admit porn addiction exists. That’s a sign that it is a problem.

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  • ianhclark510@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    I’d advocate for us to update our ID systems to be able to verify age without the risk of data theft or extortion, but that’s not really relevant to this conversation, just kinda talking to the void

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• ArchRecord@lemm.ee ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  There’s absolutely something to be said for trying to ensure that people don’t have access to porn as kids, but that doesn’t come from what these legal battles inevitably want to impose, which is ID check requirements that create a massive treasure trove of data for attackers to target to steal IDs, blackmail individuals, and violate people’s privacy, while adding additional costs for porn sites that will inevitably lead to predatory monetization, such as more predatory ads.

  The problem is that parents are offloading their own responsibility and education off themselves and schools, and instead placing an unworkable burden onto the sites that host and distribute pornographic content.

  We know that when you provide proper sex education, talk to kids about how to safely consume adult content without risking their health, safety, and while setting realistic expectations, you tend to get much better outcomes.

  If there’s one thing I think most people are very aware of, it’s that the more you try and hide something from kids, the more they tend to try and resist that, and find it anyways, except without any proper education or safeguards.

  It’s why abstinence only education tends to lead to worse outcomes than sex education, even though on the surface, you’re “exposing” kids to sexually related materials.

  This doesn’t mean we should deliberately expose kids to porn out of nowhere, remove all restrictions or age checks, etc, but it does mean that we can, for example:

  • Implement reasonable sex education in schools. Kids who have sex ed generally engage in healthier masturbation and sex than kids who don’t.
  • Have parents talk with their kids about safe and healthy sex & relationships. It’s an awkward conversation, but we know it keeps kids healthier and safer in the long run.
  • Implement a captcha-like system to make it a little more difficult (and primarily, slower and less stimulating) for kids to quickly access porn sites. Requiring certain somewhat higher level math problems to be solved, for example. This doesn’t rely on giving up sensitive personal info.

  Kids won’t simply stop viewing porn if you implement age gates. Kids are smart, they find their way around restrictions all the time. If we can’t reasonably stop them without producing a whole host of other extremely negative consequences, then the best thing we can do is educate them on how to not severely risk their own health.

  It’s not perfect, but it’s better than creating massive pools of private data, perverse financial incentives, and pushing people to more fringe sites that do even less to comply with the law.

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  • venusaur@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    I understand and agree with what you’re saying. I think people should need licenses to have kids, but that’s a different story.

    The conflict that this often boils down to is that the digital world does not emulate the real world. If you want to buy porn in the real world, you need ID, but online anything goes. I love my online anonymity just as much as everybody else, but we’ll eventually need to find some hybrid approach.

    We already scan our faces on our phones all the time, or scan our finger on our computer. How about when you want to access a porn site you have to type in a password or do some biometric credential?

    I think 50% or more of the resistance of restricting porn is really just that people really love porn and are ashamed of what they view. There’s a whole other social psychology that needs to change in regards to how we view sex and I agree with more education.

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    • ArchRecord@lemm.ee ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

      The conflict that this often boils down to is that the digital world does not emulate the real world. If you want to buy porn in the real world, you need ID, but online anything goes. I love my online anonymity just as much as everybody else, but we’ll eventually need to find some hybrid approach.

      The problem is that because the internet is fundamentally different from the real world, it has its own challenges that make some of the things we do in the real world unfeasible in the digital world. showing an ID to a clerk at a store doesn’t transmit your sensitive information over the internet to/through an unknown list of companies, who may or may not store it for an undetermined amount of time, but doing so on the internet essentially has to do so.

      While I do think we should try and prevent kids from viewing porn at young ages, a lot of the mechanisms proposed to do so are either not possible, cause many other harms by their existence that could outweigh their benefits, or are trivially bypassed.

      We already scan our faces on our phones all the time, or scan our finger on our computer. How about when you want to access a porn site you have to type in a password or do some biometric credential?

      Those systems are fundamentally different, even though the interaction is the same, so implementing them in places like porn sites carries entirely different implications.

      For example, (and I’m oversimplifying a bit here for time’s sake) a biometric scan on your phone is just comparing the scan it takes each time with the hash (a processed version) of your original biometric scan during setup. If they match, the phone unlocks.

      This verification process does nothing to verify if you’re a given age, just that your face/fingerprint is the same as during setup. It also never has to transmit or store your biometrics to another company. It’s always on-device.

      Age verification online for something like porn is much more complex. When you’re verifying a user, you have to verify:

      • The general location the user lives in (to determine which laws you must comply with, if not for the type of verification, then for the data retention and security, and access)
      • The age of the user
      • The reality of the user (e.g. a camera held up to a YouTube video shouldn’t verify as if the person is the one in the video)
      • The uniqueness of the user (e.g. that this isn’t someone re-licensing the same clip of their face to be replayed directly into the camera feed, allowing any number of people to verify using the same face)
      • And depending on the local regulations, the identity of the user (e.g. name, and sometimes other identifiers like address, email, phone number, SSN, etc)

      This all carries immense challenges. It’s fundamentally incompatible with user privacy. Any step in this process could involve processing data about someone that could allow for:

      • Blackmail/extortion
      • Data breaches that allow access to other services the person has an account on
      • Being added to spam marketing lists
      • Heavily targeted advertising based on sexual preference
      • Government registries that could be used to target opponents

      This also doesn’t include the fact that most of these can simply be bypassed by anyone willing to put in even a little effort. If you can buy an ID or SSN online for less than a dollar, you’ll definitely be able to buy an age verification scan video, or a photo of an ID.

      Plus, for those unwilling to directly bypass measures on the major sites, then if only the sites that actually fear government enforcement implement these measures, then people will simply go to the less regulated sites.

      In fact, this is a well documented trend, that whenever censorship of any media happens, porn or otherwise, viewership simply moves to noncompliant services. And of course, these services can be hosting much worse content than the larger, relatively regulatory-compliant businesses, such as CSAM, gore, nonconsensual recordings, etc.

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      • venusaur@lemmy.world ⁨16⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

        Do it like this: you have to go to a notary and show your ID and they don’t scan it or anything, but they then authorize you to create an account with biometric credentials. Now only you can use that account to watch porn online. Hybrid approach.

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