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• WhiteRabbit_33@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Yep, this is exactly it. Practice safe sex, get on PrEP for HIV prevention, talk about testing and status with any potential sexual partners in or out of the polycule, and get tested every 3-6 months.

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  • Hugin@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Yeah. My polycule is small but my friend is in a big multinational one. They have a google doc spreadsheet with STD results and sexual relationship tracking (fluid bonded, barriers, etc).

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    • BartyDeCanter@lemmy.sdf.org ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      Poly culture is a shared google doc and calendar for planning time with partners.

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  • Gurei@sh.itjust.works ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Yup! And if that’s too much of an ask, interrelationship dynamics are probably too much of a ask as well!

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• xor@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  yes because you can absolutely trust and guarantee safety amongst everyone in your polycule, and because you can totally be safe from STI’s that are transmitted by skin contact….

  you can be safer, but not safe

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  • YarHarSuperstar@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Yeah it’s better to just be alone forever. Isolation smisolation

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    • xor@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      nothing is completely safe… walking down the street isn’t completely safe….
      acknowledging risks isn’t the same as saying don’t take any risks….
      chump.

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      • YarHarSuperstar@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        Lol. Obviously. You said polycules can’t be great, not me.

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  • Hupf@feddit.org ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Trust isn’t a numbers thing.

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    • WoodScientist@sh.itjust.works ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      Trust isn’t the issue. Probability is. Even without deception, there’s a chance someone can have an STD without knowing it. And there’s a chance that std won’t show up on testing due to incubation times, dormancy phases, and false negatives.

      Imagine there is a 1% chance of your partner having an STD without knowing it. 1% doesn’t sound too bad an odds. But if you have 50 partners in an extended polycule, then the chance that at least one of them unknowingly has one is 1-(.99)^50, or 39%. Probabilities compound.

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    • xor@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      i’ve been lied to by people i trusted many times… but i hope your ability to determine trustworthiness is perfect. mine is not.

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