Well you clearly don’t have kids, and if you do, you sound like the shitty parent lol
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ysjet@lemmy.world 2 weeks agoWhat a weird rule. You are intentionally destroying your kid’s social, developmental, and interpersonal opportunities because you’re unwilling to actually put in the time to parent.
The least you could do is give them a dumb phone, so they are ostracized less. Or better yet, actually teach and parent them how to use a phone, and then give them a phone with locked down permissions to block tiktok/etc.
elatedCatfish@lemm.ee 2 weeks ago
ysjet@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
What an odd, incorrect assumption. Kids need to be able to socialize. This isn’t the 1980s anymore, you can’t just go to a mall, there are very few physical third spaces anymore, literally none in some locations.
For a lot of kids, those third spaces are via phone/online. I can absolutely understand wanting to limit exposure to bad influences of phones, that IS good parenting, but you need to offer alternatives, or managed use, or something, or you’re socially isolating your kid. Worst case scenario, you’re getting them bullied- kids can be cruel (though from what I’ve seen, not as much as they used to be, thankfully).
The person literally said in another comment:
Yes, it’s part of set them up to succeed not fail. And another part of it is I want them to have a clean break from the outside world, from friendship drama or clinginess, from school stuff, etc.
Now, I’m assuming this is partially a situation of english not being the first language, from some of the grammar, but wanting to have their kids be ‘cleanly’ broken away from friendships, school stuff, and the very outside world (presumably when not at school) sounds… look, I’m going to be frank here, their literal goal seems to be socially stunting their kid.
Kids need to learn who they are. You’re not trying to raise someone to be a child, you’re trying to raise someone to be a healthy, functioning adult, and part of that means going through friendships, even friendship drama, exploring the outside world, etc etc.
Fuhgeddaboutit@sopuli.xyz 2 weeks ago
[deleted]ysjet@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
A good point, but I’ll note that most socialization for kids these days doesn’t necessarily happen at a singular friend’s house- it’s typically in a private chat/channel/group/etc online.
fluffykittycat@slrpnk.net 2 weeks ago
One of the malls near me recently made it against the rules to be there if you’re under 18 without supervision of someone over 21, with the wristband enforcement and everything. It’s literally impossible to socialize outside anymore because everyone hated teenagers and wanted to get them off their lawn. And now they’re all inside because that’s the only place left for them and now they still aren’t happy. We need better places online and offline for kids and teens to socialize because this is getting ridiculous
ysjet@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Yeah, they’ve done that at the malls near me as well. Surprise surprise, 3 of them have closed down and the fourth is a ghost town.
Basically every store in the place is some kind of crystals-and-juju or retirement-scam place, along with somehow a ton of phone case booths?
When I was a kid (might be dating myself here) there was music shops, arcades, bookstores, food, all kinds of shit.
elatedCatfish@lemm.ee 2 weeks ago
I feel bad for your children then
ysjet@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
For getting to experience life instead of being locked in a house, only able to interact with family?
insaneinthemembrane@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
You are really telling everyone how little you know about parenting. This is what parenting looks like. You parent the kids you have with the skills and tools available. It doesn’t look the same for everyone.
You should probably sit back down.
Cethin@lemmy.zip 2 weeks ago
They are parenting. This is what parenting looks like. You don’t just give them everything they want. Sure, you can also choose to give them a phone, and you can choose to lock it down. You can also choose to give them nothing. Parenting is about making those decisions for your child. It isn’t about listening to random people tell you stupid things online who act like they’re more knowledgeable about your situation.
ysjet@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Parenting is about making the best choices you can for your children, not simply making choices for your children. And I never said to give them everything they want.
The fact is, the dude is intentionally trying to socially isolate their kids to ‘protect them’ which is textbook helicopter/overcontrolling parent and deeply fucks kids up for life. S/He literally outright says they want their kids to cleanly break from ‘friendship drama’ and the literal outside world. That’s… words cannot describe how concerning that sounds.