dingus
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- Comment on I have a good feeling about this one. 3 weeks ago:
Congratulations, man! :)
- Comment on I made sh.itjust.works/c/ama, a place for anyone and everyone to host an AMA 4 weeks ago:
I’d be surprised if any celebrity was on Lemmy lol. It seems like it would be for everyone! That sounds pretty interesting to me!
- Comment on I never realized this 4 weeks ago:
Ah I didn’t know that! Interesting!
- Comment on I never realized this 4 weeks ago:
Ah ok yeah your first comment was sarcastic then haha
- Comment on I never realized this 4 weeks ago:
Maybe not quite, but iml it’s certainly leaps and bounds better that altering your identity entirely in submission of a partner.
- Comment on I never realized this 4 weeks ago:
Sorry I’m not understanding what you mean
- Comment on I never realized this 4 weeks ago:
I would think it would be just as weird to collectively switch to matronymic last names as a society. It would make more sense to me if couples just decided which name they liked better and went with that, be it coming from the man or woman. So a more even split of that sort of pattern is what I mean.
- Comment on I never realized this 4 weeks ago:
I think it varies with culture, but from my understanding, usually they take the first name of the two hyphens for their own marriage.
So you have John Doe and Jane Smith. They hyphenate their names as Doe-Smith and the children do as well.
Say they have a daughter Sally Doe-Smith who meets Tim Johnson-Star. So they marry and hyphenate their names as Johnson-Doe.
Yes, in examples like this, it still ends up as getting rid of the maternal aspect of it in the end…but the point is still that both parties are keeping part of and changing another part of their names. It’s not an all or nothing total switch of identity. The lineage is male, but the here and now is an equal compromise of identity.
- Comment on I never realized this 4 weeks ago:
Yeah I’ve always thought it was weird that women are supposed to give up their identity to a man to be married. I’m not really sure why hyphenated names aren’t as popular in the western world or why people don’t occasionally chose to take the woman’s name. I know that women don’t have to change their names, but then often you’ll have the kids as the same name as the father anyway but not the mother. So I’ve heard many women say that they did it so their kids would share their last name.
Hell, I don’t even like my father. But my name is who I am and I like it.
- Comment on Happy New Year! Thought I'd share my new year's resolution to the people here 4 weeks ago:
I hear you there. BUT the only time I think resolutions beyond 1080p actually do make sense is in a computer monitor. When you sit super close to something like that, lower resolutions are more obvious. I have a 23 inch 1080p monitor that I use in my setup. To me, text and whatnot has always felt a bit “blurry” and dissatisfying compared to my 13 inch 1080p laptop screen at the same viewing distance.
On a TV setup, the average person sits much too far away to notice a difference in 1080p vs 4k. You have to be sitting only a few inches away to notice, like in a computer setup.
- Comment on SAD 4 weeks ago:
Thank you, same to you as well!
But yeah I do want to stress that this was just my personal experience. Other people who identify as asexual may have radically different experiences.
- Comment on [deleted] 4 weeks ago:
Wow this was me attempting to go to a work party several weeks back lol. Idk why social interaction has to be so stressful!!
- Comment on SAD 4 weeks ago:
I’ve never “stopped” getting horny because I never started to begin with. Like I said, it was confusing growing up when my peers would experience that and talk about that and I couldn’t relate. I know that if you experience a sudden decrease/lack of libido even though you once experienced it, it is often a symptom of depression. But that’s not how it worked in my case. That’s just how I’ve always been. And still others assumed I was just a “late bloomer”. Again no. Early on I suppose one could postulate that but I’m now 30 lol. My body went through the normal changes of puberty at a normal age too so everything seems to be fine in that department!
I wouldn’t know what intense sexual desire feels like, so I don’t know how I would be able to compare said desire to anything else like you describe. I will say I have absolutely never been a passionate person about anything. So it’s interesting to me when I stumble across someone who describes their passion for their career or a particular hobby or etc. I have not ever really experienced that. I have likes and dislikes, but not so much passions.
I am more than capable of experiencing other types of emotions tho…happiness and sadness are ones that I have the ability to feel very strongly depending on the scenario. Moreso than others to the point where it gets me in trouble sometimes honestly.
- Comment on Satisfaction Guaranteed- Get Yours Today! 4 weeks ago:
Amazing. One of my friends would definitely die lmao
- Comment on Stop wasting money on shrinks and drugs - read this book 4 weeks ago:
If we’re going to get real for a second, I just wanted to complain a bit.
I get that therapy is so heavily advocated for and seen as the catch all nowadays, but the mental health field itself (at least in the US, not sure about every country) needs a total overhaul. At this point I have spoken to maybe like 5-6? different therapists.
At no point did any of these people offer anything useful to me. Most simply acted like ChatGPT…repeating what I said back to them without saying anything of much substance. Then there was one who was consistently 30 minutes late to every single session (4-5?) I had with her. Once or twice, sure I get it…but good fucking lord have at least some respect for the client. Then there was another therapist who seemed to want to get a bit more practical about things, but kept downplaying any issues I have with my cunt supervisor because she didn’t commit r**e or murder, so what she did and the way it made me feel didn’t matter. And then there are others who utilize certain methodologies where they try to teach you that all of your thoughts and feelings are invalid and wrong…as if the only way to exist as a functional being in society is to be born a different person.
In all this, the constant feedback I hear from people is…well…you just didn’t click with that one or that one is a shitty therapist. Keep trying and you’ll find one out there that will help!
Therapy is not cheap and not always even easy to schedule. And then going through so many shitty ones when you’re already mentally drained enough to need therapy is just even more disheartening and mentally draining.
The point I’m getting at is not necessarily that all mental health is bunk. But I am fortunate enough to have had the means to spend multiple hundreds upon hundreds (thousands) of dollars on this ultimately unhelpful and frustrating journey. Many others are not so financially fortunate.
If I can have a sample size of 5-6 random therapists and they are all literal trash, then the mental health field is not outputting what they should be outputting.
It’s like I have a broken ankle and I have to go to 5 separate hospitals…yet none of the hospitals know how to fix it. So instead of trying even more hospitals, I just end up hobbling on a broken ankle which will heal mal-aligned because it’s too much time, effort, and money to continue with what seems like a futile task.
This wouldn’t be acceptable in the field of medicine, but it somehow is in the mental health care. I don’t at all know how to fix the mental health field, but I know that it isn’t at all where it should be.
- Comment on Stop wasting money on shrinks and drugs - read this book 4 weeks ago:
Hello, me??? We can be self-centered shitheads together!
- Comment on Stop wasting money on shrinks and drugs - read this book 4 weeks ago:
I tried to look up if this was a real book because I’d def want to buy it. I came up with only one result on Amazon and the cover looks different and it doesn’t have good ratings.
- Comment on SAD 4 weeks ago:
So I’m not who you asked, but I consider myself to be on the asexual spectrum. No, I don’t get horny.
But here’s the thing. As a teen, I stumbled into the term asexuality and thought I finally found others like me! But then reading through the forums, most of them seemed to talk about still getting horny and having a libido. They choose to masturbate instead of having sex with a partner. Or, some of them will even still have sex with a partner.
Confusing to me. To me, desiring sexual things at all doesn’t fall in line with what the term “asexual” means at first glance. It seems like they should have chosen a different term. Still made me feel like an outcast among both the sexual and asexual communities.
Anyway…tl;dr is some do, some don’t.
- Comment on Too dumb to understand where the gas tank opening is 4 weeks ago:
I’m really sorry to hear :(
- Comment on Too dumb to understand where the gas tank opening is 4 weeks ago:
My only thought as to why this could occur is that either the person is intoxicated or has some sort of cognitive issue like dementia OR that it was deliberately done as a sketch to make a viral video. The former are scary to think about. I can understand a “normal” person making this mistake once or twice, but the fact that it’s continuous and repeated would lead toward impairment.
- Comment on lewd noodles 2 months ago:
It seems like this would negatively impact the health of the snake. Do we have any scale-less snake experts?
- Comment on Absolute slander 2 months ago:
Once during a phone call, my family needed to know the dimensions of something at my brother’s house. He couldn’t find a tape measure, but he had a jug of milk. We determined that the item we needed to know the dimensions of was the size of the height of my brother plus one milk jug.
- Comment on Bombs Awat 2 months ago:
I’m confused though. Don’t people use this to talk about how small things like bugs can fall from a large height and be uninjured, but large things like a human or elephant will be injured if falling from a height? I feel like what you’re saying is backwards to what the internet has told me.
- Comment on Just Me saying hello 2 months ago:
Plus why put this here instead of in the NSFW instance they came from?
- Comment on Call me 2 months ago:
$525/no for a 2 bedroom apartment? I’m going to cry.
- Comment on AI Elections 2 months ago:
Maybe they are onto something here…
- Comment on Respect 2 months ago:
I weirdly see a lot of these “yes…but…” Comics everywhere and I don’t get like 90% of them tbh.
- Comment on The Perfect Bear 2 months ago:
It’s honestly pretty good even though it’s rather simple. I look at some paintings from like the middle ages and wonder why no one seemed to actually learn to draw until more modern times. But there was definitely an artist in this cave individual.
- Comment on A Toilet for our Times 3 months ago:
What
- Comment on Squeaky clean 3 months ago:
Nah, something more catastrophic. There are drains in the floor in the lab and sewage started randomly bubbling over and spewing out of them. Just made for an interesting Friday is all lol.