rayquetzalcoatl
@rayquetzalcoatl@lemmy.world
- Comment on those of you with good skills to defuse a tense situation at the workplace, what advice can you give me? 2 days ago:
I would suggest breathing and taking time to respond if you need to respond at all. I’d also, genuinely (and I’m not trying to say anything about you here) try to check in with your internal monologue.
If you want to effectively resolve conflicts, you have to make people feel like you’re listening to them even if you disagree, and even if you think they’re inane or annoying or stupid. In my experience, to make people feel like you’re hearing what they’re saying and not just being dismissive (being dismissive absolutely will antagonise people), I have to make an effort to try to empathise, try to understand where they’re coming from, and try to be charitable.
To me, just picking up on terms in your post like “Karen”, and “snippy”, it feels like you’re dismissing this person - which I totally get. You’re not going to resolve conflicts that way, if you’re trying to resolve this particular conflict. It’s not possible to resolve every conflict, and some people simply will not engage with your attempts to work things out and will shout you down and try to trample you, but if you want a resolution you have to be willing to try.
Aside from that, yeah, walking away from your colleague I can see them feeling a bit abandoned by that. You’re totally allowed to just stand there quietly in support - in fact, some people may even feel threatened if you try to interject as it’ll then be two against one, and that might escalate things.
Anyway, good that you’re asking, and good luck! Remember, you’re allowed to take time to respond. It’s better for you to breathe and calm yourself if you feel nervous during conflict, rather than leaping to reply and listening to any kind of nervous, defensive reaction. Take time, slow down, and breathe. It’s normal to feel nervous and uncomfortable and upset when facing conflict. ✌️
- Comment on Scoop: Ubisoft cancelled a post-Civil War Assassin’s Creed last year 4 days ago:
Ubisoft? The notorious video game publisher that had several high-up members of staff accused of sexual and psychological harassment?
Ubisoft? The company described in a lawsuit filed by employees in 2021 as ‘a legal entity for institutional sexual harassment for setting up, maintaining and reinforcing a system where sexual harassment is tolerated because it is more profitable for the company to keep harassers in place than to protect its employees’?
That Ubisoft? They cancelled a game? Oh no :(
- Comment on I get texting and driving being a danger. But back in my day you could eat drink change radio stations etc. Why weren't laws implemented back then? 2 weeks ago:
I walk a lot. Even in that much lower speed, much lower stakes situation, I can tell you that eating/drinking is completely fine but give somebody a phone and they turn into a blind moron with no concept of other people. Even I’m guilty of it, if I’m trying to skip ads on a podcast or something and I absent-mindedly look down at my phone without getting out of the way and stopping first, by the time I look up I’ll have travelled much further than I thought and have been surprised by people popping out of alleyways or crossing roads etc who are now in front of me.
The number of times I’ve seen people physically walk into lampposts, other people, or just slowly sway side to side on the pavement, taking the whole thing up, while they dick around on their phones… People get out of elevators or up stairs and immediately stop and pull out their phones, blocking the exit for everyone else.
You can’t use a phone and do anything else at the same time unfortunately.
- Comment on GTA V was released on this day, 12 years ago 3 weeks ago:
If you’re just talking about number of copies sold, using the term “best” is confusing
- Comment on GTA V was released on this day, 12 years ago 3 weeks ago:
I’m out of the loop with GTA VI, but the last I knew of it the only thing they’d released was a cinematic, non-gameplay trailer. Have they released gameplay now?
- Comment on 'My Advice to Users Is to Accept Reality and Tune, or to Not Play' — Randy Pitchford Is at the 'Get a Refund From Steam' Stage of the Borderlands 4 PC Performance Backlash 3 weeks ago:
We’ll see how it comes out in the sales figures, I suppose! I would like to believe you’re right but I just have absolutely not a jot of faith that people will stick to their outrage. 😂
- Comment on 'My Advice to Users Is to Accept Reality and Tune, or to Not Play' — Randy Pitchford Is at the 'Get a Refund From Steam' Stage of the Borderlands 4 PC Performance Backlash 3 weeks ago:
Not casting aspersions towards you personally, but we all know how gamer boycotts go generally. As in, they don’t. People cave and buy the games anyway, once they’re over the initial outrage. This is 100% marketing.
- Comment on Four arrested after photo of Trump and Jeffrey Epstein projected onto Windsor Castle 3 weeks ago:
Awh yeah nice let’s just bend the knee even further shall we Starmer you pie-faced bellend
- Comment on 'My Advice to Users Is to Accept Reality and Tune, or to Not Play' — Randy Pitchford Is at the 'Get a Refund From Steam' Stage of the Borderlands 4 PC Performance Backlash 3 weeks ago:
I have come to accept that this is a PR campaign to plaster the name everywhere all over social media and let it worm its way into currently pissed off gamers’ heads for a few months down the line when they’ve calmed down and inevitably buy the fucking thing.
Pitchford is a slimeball. Rarely has a man who is allegedly not an insurance or used-car salesman given off such nakedly scummy vibes.
We need to stop giving free publicity to this little marketing man, and to this poorly optimised, expensive game.
- Comment on Elon Musk calls for dissolution of parliament at far-right rally in London 4 weeks ago:
Oh go away Elon Musk, fuck off to space already you dozy cunt
- Comment on Elon Musk tells Tommy Robinson protest ‘violence is coming’ in call for change in UK government 4 weeks ago:
Man, the world sucks.
- Comment on Bosses can reject applicants who support rival football team to existing staff, judge says 4 weeks ago:
I guess an argument could be that not drinking is unlikely to cause fights, whereas supporting rival teams, depending on the rivalry in question… There’s a lot of potential for tension
- Comment on At least he is happy 4 weeks ago:
Small uncle Roman boyfriend when?
- Comment on At least he is happy 4 weeks ago:
Jesus, she has to buy three pairs of shoes at a time? That’s gonna be expensive.
- Comment on The new man overseeing Britain’s arms exports is vice-chair of Labour Friends of Israel 4 weeks ago:
Holy shit. How is this guy not in jail? You can’t just order raids on people for disagreeing with you. Without even getting into whether she was right or wrong to be against those arms sales (she was right), her opinion is not unlawful and she didn’t do anything illegal or threatening in communicating it. She did what she is apparently meant to do as a responsible citizen; express her opinion to her local MP.
That’s terrorism. This man is a terrorist. He’s sending dawn raids into people’s homes for disagreeing with him. How does he still have a job in parliament?? What the fuck??
- Comment on Lucy Connolly, who urged mobs to burn down hotels, is introduced as "Britain's favourite political prisoner" at Reform UK's conference 5 weeks ago:
Isn’t this just the “we are all domestic terrorists” thing from that whatever American conference? Why is it here now? Get rid.
- Comment on Doctor uses Reform conference speech to link king’s cancer to Covid vaccine 5 weeks ago:
The US becomes less funny when the brain worms spread over here.
- Comment on UK phone retailers lock shop doors while trading to tackle rising thefts 5 weeks ago:
Yeah! My last place council tax was £92, granted I get 25% off as a sole occupier and all that. My current is £100 a month. Oooh I’d be careful what you wish for, we all know what happened to Birmingham 😂
Ah yeah I was wondering whether it’d be a no-data plan. That’s so cool tho, I’m into that. I would like to go no-data and just be unreachable when I’m wandering but honestly I’m so scatterbrained that I wouldn’t be able to stockpile audiobooks/podcasts/albums enough to last me 😭 good stuff tho, I am jealous!
- Comment on UK phone retailers lock shop doors while trading to tackle rising thefts 5 weeks ago:
Oooh how did you get down to £4? I’m on £6, only 5GB data and I hit the limit every month.
£83 a month on a phone is fucking mental. That’s a council tax payment in some places. That’s more than my gas + electricity.
- Comment on UK phone retailers lock shop doors while trading to tackle rising thefts 5 weeks ago:
Who on earth is paying £1800 minimum for a bloody mobile phone??? That’s insane!
- Comment on I ordered drug-laced vapes on Snapchat. It was as easy as picking up pizza 5 weeks ago:
He has agreed to sell what he claims to be THC vape liquids to a schoolgirl – an illegal substance which is the main psychoactive ingredient in cannabis.
However, we suspect it actually contains spice, a more potent drug that is highly addictive and can cause serious side effects.
Okay, fair play. Just reading the headline alone and the first paragraph, I was thinking that this reporter was a total jobsworth.
But, spice can be a pretty nasty drug, and essentially spiking teenagers with it when they’re just trying to get some weed is real scumbag behaviour.
- Comment on Sainsbury’s tests facial recognition technology in effort to tackle shoplifting 5 weeks ago:
Mm but then you’re in the US which I think is worse than Sainsbury’s
- Comment on Driver claims cyclist punched him in face and threw bike at car, causing £1,000 worth of damage, after motorist hit him “at about 2mph” 5 weeks ago:
Some sort of weird bot?
- Comment on Sainsbury’s tests facial recognition technology in effort to tackle shoplifting 5 weeks ago:
Haha, it’s been coming for ages. I’m pretty bored of being treated like some kind of cattle criminal in Sainsbury’s, having to go through their gated self checkout system (because it costs too much to employ a human) and obviously scan my receipt to get out because goodness knows after getting absolutely rinsed on prices I have to prove that I’ve paid too.
Fucking scumbag execs, hope they choke on the profits 👍
- Comment on Is Miss England's AI round dangerous or progressive? 1 month ago:
God I’m so fucking sick of hearing about AI. There is simply no way to interact with the internet without having to hear some absolute dross about AI.
- Comment on In shower today: "I bet my YouTube account is older than most of the people on YouTube." ...Yes, yes it is. 1 month ago:
Unregistered HyperCam 2
- Comment on Reeves ‘plots tax raid on landlords’ to help plug £40bn Budget black hole 1 month ago:
Awesome, just in time for my renewal. I wonder how my landlord will phrase the increase this time… “Hi, your tenancy renewal is due. Unfortunately I need to increase the rent a little bit” I reckon.
- Comment on Prince William and Kate to move into new eight-bedroom home worth £16m - This will be their 6th 'Forever home' 1 month ago:
Well I mean, seriously, have you seen him? Yes, I know it’s a bit of a harsh statement but it really does make me think twice about incest if my sibling-kids might look like him when they get older!
- Comment on It's a simple thing, but one good way to make games memorable is for the developers to leave you words of encouragement in the pack-in material. 1 month ago:
Wait, was it? :o I played that for a few hours and don’t remember experiencing any lag! It was a few years ago mind 😂
- Comment on It's a simple thing, but one good way to make games memorable is for the developers to leave you words of encouragement in the pack-in material. 1 month ago:
I love this sort of thing! I experienced the reverse lately; I downloaded Diablo 4, closed the blinds, and got drawn into the intro cinematic. Genuinely awesome, moody, atmospheric. I was IN, so ready to play some dark and brooding spooky shit! The cinematic ends…
DLC! BUY OUR COSMETICS! HERE’S A BAJILLION DIABLO CREDIT$$! totally killed the mood. Turns out the game is always-online, even when playing solo, and I was experiencing laggy movement so I just uninstalled. Left a huge bad taste in my mouth.