Eknz
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- Comment on Having the ability to lie and manipulate with no remorse will get you much further in this world than having morals and being correct 1 day ago:
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- Comment on Having the ability to lie and manipulate with no remorse will get you much further in this world than having morals and being correct 2 days ago:
Is there any reason why you downvoted my other comments?
You can learn a lot of valuable skills by being a caregiver to someone like this, although they will try to pull you into their cynical worldview. This is a simplistic, and distorted view of the world that aligns with how psychopaths and narcissists experience the world, however, isn’t useful nor realistic.
They both have a splitting mechanism where people are split into an all good and an all bad object, and struggle to integrate these two objects into an integrated object that accurately represents the person. The psychopath can’t create complete objects, and so splits the person into good in the form of utility, and bad in the form of impediment to their goals… Cynicism is assuming everyone’s true self is the bad object because they feel it’s safer to assume the worst in someone than assume the best.
- Comment on Having the ability to lie and manipulate with no remorse will get you much further in this world than having morals and being correct 2 days ago:
I’m dealing with a situation at the moment where an individual was a caregiver for decades, only for the cared person to turn around and leave the caregiver to die when the caregiver became too old to provide the care the cared person felt entitled to have.
They will never show you any gratitude, and it will be genuinely dangerous when you decide to stop or simply can no longer continue providing care.
Once you exist in the psychopath’s world, you only have one of two choices: be useful or be destroyed. People without any utility to them don’t exist to them, however, once you exist, you can’t go back to not existing.
Take care, and acknowledge the opportunity cost of your time and energy is being deprived from other people who genuinely need and can appreciate it.
- Comment on Having the ability to lie and manipulate with no remorse will get you much further in this world than having morals and being correct 2 days ago:
In my experience, you try to have as little to do with them as possible. Do you have some legal obligation to be their caregiver?
I think most people will recommend setting boundaries and sticking to them, however, they are compelled to cross any lines you set.
You kind of end up setting sacrificial boundaries that they can cross, or boundaries with a buffer zone so they can cross it a little bit without going too far.
Like, if the speed limit is 50 km/h, they’re going to go 55 km/h, and that’s still a safe speed so you’re happy and they’re happy. If they go 100 km/h, well, that’s genuinely unsafe and you’re forced to intervene.
- Comment on Having the ability to lie and manipulate with no remorse will get you much further in this world than having morals and being correct 2 days ago:
There is no such thing as a sociopath clinically speaking. There are primary and secondary psychopaths though, the former lacking empathy entirely and the latter having access to some empathy. They are both alloplastic (irresponsible for their actions and their consequences) and thus neither can feel guilt as guilt is associated with having responsibility. Psychopaths tend to have a generalised anxiety at their core, which they compensate for with defiance (to convince themselves and others of their power as a means to deal with the anxiety). This creates a backlash against them, which because they’re irresponsible, creates frustration, something they can’t manage well, and so direct the frustration outwards in the form of aggression.
Anxiety and shame are the emotions associated with negative (or potential) consequences while being powerless. Psychopaths are more anxious because they have an internal locus of control, whereas are more shameful narcissists because they don’t. In both cases, they seek control, albeit for different reasons.
- Comment on Having the ability to lie and manipulate with no remorse will get you much further in this world than having morals and being correct 2 days ago:
Reducing other people to mere tools is a symptom of psychopathy rather than simply low empathy. Yes, psychopaths are within the set of people with low empathy, however, shouldn’t be confused with the set itself. It’s also specifically a lack of affective (warm) empathy that’s more of the problem than a lack of empathy in general, as some psychopaths do have cognitive (warm) empathy, and so do understand others (albeit to a limited extent), however, just use it to be more exploitive rather than less. This is by contrast with autistic people who often struggle with cognitive empathy but not with affective empathy, i.e. they don’t know how they’ve hurt people but they know they’ve hurt people and try to avoid doing so.
- Comment on Having the ability to lie and manipulate with no remorse will get you much further in this world than having morals and being correct 3 days ago:
It may seem this way at times, however, it really depends on the system you’re participating in.
Have a play around with: The evolution of trust - ncase.me/trust/
- Comment on The hidden time bomb in the tax code that's fueling mass tech layoffs 3 weeks ago:
You’re not arguing against anything I’ve said given I said blame, as in, scapegoating AI for mismanagement and fundamental changes.
- Comment on The hidden time bomb in the tax code that's fueling mass tech layoffs 3 weeks ago:
I remember talking about this at the time. It did get some attention, although the industry was quick to blame other things instead, like AI.
- Comment on The best thing *you* can do for the fediverse is *just be kind* 2 months ago:
- Comment on The best thing *you* can do for the fediverse is *just be kind* 2 months ago:
Sometimes being kind doesn’t necessarily mean being nice.