DaniNatrix

@DaniNatrix@leminal.space

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How do you respond to unwanted advice?⁩ ⁨⁨14⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago⁩:

  I get a little triggered by unsolicited advice as I’m a survivor of narcissistic abuse and, for me personally, it was weaponized as a means of control, destructive criticism, manipulation etc. In general, I tend to take it as a sign that whoever is giving it isn’t a good fit for me in a friendship/relationship paradigm. In personal relationships, I find it is almost always intrusive, disrespectful, and/or harmful to the relational bond.

  However, a professional context can be different. Unsolicited advice from a manager could be an attempt at coaching/mentoring and I would give it consideration. If it’s coming from a coworker in my field with more experience than me, who I also respect, same response as above. A coworker in an unrelated department who I don’t respect? Ignore advice and make an internal note that they are likely not my kind of people.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨There was no need to ever improve upon THIS⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I love my Fit, it’s a 2012 and a manual transmission, I will drive it for as long as I possibly can.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Introverts of our era spend their time on their computers, but what did introverts do before? Like when literacy rates were lower (pre-1950s)? Or before the printing press?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Feeling blessed that this is basically my life, except I do have to go to pesky work Mon-Fri. And work is work, I’d always rather be home, but in the grand scheme of jobs, I have one where I’m challenged and get to learn new things with a decent group of humans on my team and good work/life balance so, yeah, feeling blessed for sure.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Caw caw⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  My heebs! They jeeb!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨YSK Employers do NOT verify your total work history unless you're applying for a government position.⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Sheesh, I must have missed the memo where caretaking a family member required making it your entire personality. Hope you and your family member are doing ok.

  As a team lead who is in the process of hiring for three separate positions, I would treat any applicant who insisted on the transferability of their clearly unrelated skills as a “not a good fit” candidate. I get the importance of soft skills, and I value those, but to maintain that a caretaker can seamlessly fit into basically any job role with just a little imagination is disingenuous and a little embarrassing. I’m looking for concrete skills, not spin. By all means, put your best foot forward, just don’t wear clown shoes while you do it.