EvilCartyen

@EvilCartyen@feddit.dk

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How often do you take him for a walk?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Thank you for not contributing with anything meaningful to the conversation, I guess!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How often do you take him for a walk?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  I am not referring to a string you hold, I am referring to a leash like this:

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  I find them dehumanizing and humiliating because they remind me of a dog leash. Look, people parent differently across the world, I remember a British-Indian comedian who was married to a Dane who said that every parenting practice she regarded as healthy and appropriate was basically illegal in Denmark.

  The leash will never not be weird to me, but it is what it is. I don’t think everyone who uses a leash is literally going to treat their kid like a dog, I know they probably love and cherish their kids like I cherish mine, but the fact remains that it feels off to me and I’d say most other people from my neck of the woods.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How often do you take him for a walk?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Lemmy, like reddit, skews American and you’re referring to Europe as well, Europe, which tells me you’re not European. You’re welcome to correct me, of course.

  Even if you’ve seen leashes on all continents, they’re definitely super rare and not common now. If you decide to be informative instead of assertive you are welcome to educate me on your experiences and expand on which fronts exactly I am wrong and why.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How often do you take him for a walk?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  One of my co-workers expatriated to Sweden for a few years. There were tweens just hopping on the bus and going to the museum miles away. But I get the feeling that one could trust the average Swede would prevent harm to a child from a pedophile.

  In contrast to what many people think, Nordic people are fairly strict with what kids are allowed to do when they are small. We spend a lot of time and effort to ensure that kids are well behaved and can be trusted and don’t act out when they are small, and then, gradually, they are allowed more freedom as they grow older. By the time they’re young teenagers we generally feel like they’ve demonstrated that they can be trusted and they are often allowed to bike or take the bus around town and live with a lot more freedom.

  Maybe you’re thinking “Duh, that’s how everyone does it!”, but the reason I mention it is that I’ve experienced that many cultures do it differenty; when the kids are young they are allowed a lot of freedom and very little responsibility, then as they grow older their parents will restrict them more and more.

  We’re veering off course (or I am, at least), but I find the differences in parenting across cultures very fascinating.

  One commenter said that the leashes are for safe toddler independence, not control, and I guess I can see that. It makes sense, eve if it would be cultural taboo in my part of the world.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How often do you take him for a walk?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  In the '80s and earlier, corporal punishment was regular and expected. There was a push in the '90s to stop the corporal punishment.

  Corporeal punishment was outlawed in Denmark by 1997, but was definitely frowned upon much earlier than that. My grandparent’s generation - born in the 1920s and 1930s - was likely the last generation where it was commonly used.

  I mean, our kids can be little brats as well - and our kids are also prone to run off and do dumb stuff, but apparently we handle it differently. And I am fairly certain that my initial reaction - that it’s dehumanizing and humiliating - is how it comes off to almost all Nordic parents.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How often do you take him for a walk?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Your American mum bringing a leash over and using it on you somewhere in Europe 51 years ago hardly makes me wrong on all fronts.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How often do you take him for a walk?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  So many people on this thread are defending leashes, yet they don’t exist anywhere but in the US, so…

  I have never ever seen a kid leash in Denmark or any country I have visited, and yet kids here don’t run around in stores acting out or disappearing.

  I don’t know, they seem dehumanizing and humiliating to me. If other countries can raise kids (incl kids on the spectrum) withiur them why can’t the US?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Happy PrIDE Month⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  I am impressed by this

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Grieve with me⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  So sorry about your wife’s battery

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Self-hosting is having a moment. Ethan Sholly knows why.⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Well, yes, most people want computers to be unnoticable and boring. I agree, we need more boring tech that just does a job and doesn’t bother us. That said, plenty of people find self-hosting to be fun - your SO and mine excepted, of course.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Recommendations for "girly" games?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Calico, maybe 🙂

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Rev up those 3D printers!⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Obviously babies are demanding, especially in countries with shitty parenting support and daycare, no parental leave, and a work environment which is hostile to normal family life. But kids are fine, funny, and a joy to be around, most of the time, at least. It’s a bit like work, many people bitch about it but they still find it fulfilling.

  Also, I know people my age with no kids and they a constantly complain that they’re tired 😂 probably they’re just getting old.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Rev up those 3D printers!⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Taking care of a kid is not exactly grueling work for 18 years, it’s a lot easier after the first 3-4, and is also very fulfilling even when it’s tough. Assuming you have normal human caregiving feelings and so on.

  I don’t know why the internet is so anti-kids, it’s pretty baffling.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Brazil binman finds newborn baby on garbage route⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Score! Free baby!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Tired of dating apps?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Sorry, this comment hasn’t left me disappointed AT ALL.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Psst, the Americans are asleep, post some eggs⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Eggs are also refrigerated in Denmark, that’s why we used to be such a great ally to the US.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is the UK shut down during easter?⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Thank you all, sounds like it would be a fine time to visit 😊

  Haven’t been to the UK since brexit, but I expect it’s the same as ever? 🙂

• Is the UK shut down during easter?
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• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is it mold - the diagram⁩ ⁨⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Maybe pectin?

  I’ve never had it, the closest thing I can think of is a vinegar mother, but you’d definitely notice that.

• Is it mold - the diagram
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• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Now I have to clean?!⁩ ⁨⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Hopefully you brewed more than one bottle 😁

  That said, I’ve decided I will no longer brew less than 20 litre batches because the cleaning is the same…

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Hmmmm⁩ ⁨⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  The argument is also sometimes as dumb as it looks

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Good Cider Yeasts?⁩ ⁨⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  The choice of yeast should be influenced by what you want the end result to taste like.

  For my champagne-like ciders with oak and based on belle de boskoop juice I use EC-1118. For my sweeter ciders backsweetened with erythritol I use Nottingham Ale yeast. For my summer-cider based in Discovery & Red Aroma apples and crab apple juice I do a wild ferment.

  So the question is more - what are you trying to accomplish?