monkeytennis

@monkeytennis@lemmy.world

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Black Mirror creator unafraid of AI because it’s “boring”⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago⁩:

  I also find the “just look how bad the hands are heh heh heh” thing so dumb … it’s going to learn how to draw hands pretty quickly

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Blue-Checked, ‘Verified’ Users on X Produce 74 Percent of the Platform’s Most Viral False or Unsubstantiated Claims Relating to the Israel-Hamas War⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago⁩:

  This is not news. Stop upvoting Twitter spam, it’s not even vaguely interesting.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Finding a Tech Job Is Still a Nightmare⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago⁩:

  Absolutely fine to politely ask for a salary range, in my experience. I’ve never found they hide it, but the ranges can be broad.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Finding a Tech Job Is Still a Nightmare⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago⁩:

  I’m probably in an echo chamber. I hope that 2nd application goes well for you.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Finding a Tech Job Is Still a Nightmare⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago⁩:

  In my experience, good candidates (including interns/juniors) are still landing the roles. Hiring in tech/design/product is tough because there’s a deluge of applicants who’ve either coasted during the boom, or been sold a lie by an educational institution.

  You can spot the ones who apply for 40 jobs a week, and those who’ve used chatGPT a mile off, and they’re usually the worst candidates, with long, bland, unfocused resumes.

  LinkedIn is full of my worst ex-colleagues bemoaning the lack of opportunities, like they’re entitled to it.

  Please tell me if I’m being unfair. Maybe I should be less if a cynic.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨When did paid podcasts become a thing?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago⁩:

  A shameful culprit IMO was the Kermode and Mayo film review. Two wealthy broadcasters (one extremely wealthy) who left the BBC, created an objectively worse show, half of which immediately went behind a paywall. Then they started voicing atrocious adverts and wingeing that people should pay so they could keep the lights on.

  The only upside was that I felt no pain in dropping them like a stone, but I do miss the old show and never found a good replacement.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Meta and Salesforce are looking to rehire some workers they just laid off. It's putting those people in an awkward spot.⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago⁩:

  I know what you mean, but it would depends on my current situation. Assuming I’ve had to find another job in short notice (and I’m still in my probation period) it could be a great opportunity to leverage a massive pay increase, then spend the next year planning a proper move.

  I wouldn’t list it as separate employment on my CV, unless I knew it was going to be scrutinised, in which case, it’s easily explained and reflects pretty well - they wanted me back.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How can I practice being more emotionally available as a man?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago⁩:

  Coddling has the negative connotation - to consistently overprotect. Occasional spoiling is an entirely different and good thing.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why, as a male, when emotionally do I only feel accepted by women but not by men?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago⁩:

  You missed my point. I’m ignoring nothing, I’m suggesting OP seek out men who will be supportive, because they’re not hard to find.

  I’m certain I could find studies as proof, but don’t we all already know this to be true?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why, as a male, when emotionally do I only feel accepted by women but not by men?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago⁩:

  Plenty of men can deal with this, and plenty of women can’t. It’s not helpful to see this as a gender thing, you’ll only feel more alienated. You might want to seek out some new social connections?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How can I practice being more emotionally available as a man?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago⁩:

  I’ve been though divorce recently and despite being very amicable, it’s caused me to reset - some things broke, but being more emotionally open has been one of the good things. I’m still pretty reserved but a few things are different:

  • I care a lot less about conforming to “ideals” or how anyone judges me. That means I no longer feel the fear and second guess everything I say.
  • When appropriate, I ask people - especially other men - how they’re doing and gently push for a genuine answer. No one’s reacted negatively to that, so far.
  • With my kids, I simply do the opposite to my father. I tell them I love them, I take an interest in them, and I take their feelings seriously. I don’t coddle them, but I want them to feel secure and confident in talking to me. They’re still young, so we’ll see.
  • During work 1:1s, I take a genuine interest in people, most will subtly drop hints that they had a bad weekend or are feeling tired or stressed. I used to gloss over that, now I’ll ask about it and say I’m happy to listen. A surprising number will go on to share, with the bonus that it builds trust.
  • If someone asks how I am, I won’t lay it all out for them, but I’ll be honest. Most people empathise and tell you they’ve been through similar. It’s never been awkward, and I’ve found out nearly everyone I know is pretty anxious and is going through difficult stuff.

  As an aside, I never watched much porn because I found it so cold and alienating. It’s interesting that you doing the opposite. Anyway, I’ll stop there and wish you well!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Crosspost: Beyoncé selling "only listening" tickets⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago⁩:

  That’s the general public for you. It’s why we’re fucked.