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Plenty of men can deal with this, and plenty of women can’t. It’s not helpful to see this as a gender thing, you’ll only feel more alienated. You might want to seek out some new social connections?

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NightAuthor@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago
Ignoring strong correlations because “not all” is less helpful.

Most men, in western society, have issues with expressing emotions other than anger. I’m certain I could find studies as proof, but don’t we all already know this to be true?

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- monkeytennis@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago
  You missed my point. I’m ignoring nothing, I’m suggesting OP seek out men who will be supportive, because they’re not hard to find.
  
  I’m certain I could find studies as proof, but don’t we all already know this to be true?
  
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- dumdum666@kbin.social ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago
  Yeah. Provide studies.
  
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  - NightAuthor@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago
    Here’s one that cites multiple others right in the intro.
    
    scholar.google.com/scholar?hl=en&as_sdt=0%2C3…
    
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    dumdum666@kbin.social ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago
    I picked the first three results from your search and they don’t support your argument at all. They even call it out as a stereotype (which it is).
    
    Male leaders received lower effectiveness ratings when expressing sadness compared to neutrality, while female leaders received lower ratings when expressing either sadness or anger.
    
    So sadness for leaders is neither ok for women or men.
    
    https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1002/(SICI)1099-1379(200003)21:2%3C221::AID-JOB36%3E3.0.CO;2-0
    
    Design: Questionnaires were administered to 41 women and 41 men using a cross-sectional study design.
    
    Rather small sample size and the conclusion was very cautiously worded … so no facts that support your theory.
    
    https://bpspsychub.onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1348/135910703322370851
    
    The analysis of emoticon (emotional icon) use in online newsgroups appears to reinforce the stereotype of the emotional female and the inexpressive male until further examination suggests otherwise. The most interesting finding of this study is illustrated by the pattern of change that develops for both genders when they move from a predominantly same gender newsgroup to a mixed-gender newsgroup. The changes that take place in emoticon use when moving from same-gender to mixed-gender newsgroups indicate that rather than the emotional expression of females being silenced or muted by male encoding of emoticons, males adopt the female standard of expressing more emotion. Furthermore, women have added dimensions including solidarity, support, assertion of positive feelings, and thanks, which were absent from the male-created definition of emoticons and their use.
    
    No proof for your theory either.
    
    https://www.liebertpub.com/doi/abs/10.1089/10949310050191809
    
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