Lazylazycat
@Lazylazycat@lemmy.world
- Comment on Why do we even do mens vs womens sizes for clothes? 2 weeks ago:
It isn’t about style. Women’s sizes (e.g. 8, 10, 12) originally came from codes based on the variations between hip, waist and bust measurements.
- Comment on Why do we even do mens vs womens sizes for clothes? 2 weeks ago:
Generally, women are going to have boobs and wider hips and men generally have bigger feet. Obviously there’s a massive spectrum of human body shapes, but this is the big differentiation.
If I wear my (male) partner’s t-shirts, they’re just straight with no space for boobs and they don’t come in at the waist. Same with trousers, there’s a massive pouch in the crotch, too narrow on my hips and to loose at the waist. People like to wear things that best fit their bodies.
- Comment on Why aren't there mass protests in the USA? 2 weeks ago:
Thanks, I’m not from the US so have only seen little snippets.
- Comment on Why aren't there mass protests in the USA? 2 weeks ago:
People need to be sharing info here and through other channels. Pictures, videos, links to organised groups.
- Comment on Redditors told me to go to the therapist but I can’t afford one nor pick one from thousands available. What now? 2 weeks ago:
Yeah you shouldn’t have to, none of us should have to face prejudice. But talking to someone could help you learn how to deal with difficult situations, or manage your emotional reaction when something bad happens (I’m not trying to invalidate how you feel, feeling rage is justified, but finding more productive outlets for anger can be really helpful, I’ve found this for myself personally), or they can just be someone you can vent all these thoughts to about wanting to burn them all to the ground. They could also help you consider other practical/logistical solutions to problems you’re facing.
- Comment on Redditors told me to go to the therapist but I can’t afford one nor pick one from thousands available. What now? 2 weeks ago:
Well that’s a really good starting place :) If you did want to try therapy, being able to go in saying “I have these issues and I need to learn how to cope them” then you’ve got something to work on.
It would be helpful to find a therapist who is a specialist in trans issues, and hopefully they can help you work through what you’re struggling with. They can help you reflect on why you feel a certain way, or why certain things make you feel uncomfortable or how to cope with everyday things you have to face from other people. Sorry if I’m making any assumptions about what you need, but hopefully you get the gist of what I’m saying.
- Comment on Redditors told me to go to the therapist but I can’t afford one nor pick one from thousands available. What now? 2 weeks ago:
I wouldn’t say it’s essential, more one option out of a whole bunch you could use to improve yourself (though we pay for many essential things like housing, water, food… Welcome to life as we know it).
Therapy isn’t going to “fix” anything. It’s a way of helping you reflect on yourself, see where your problems are, give you some perspective and start to see things differently. It can help you understand why you have certain behaviours and traits and work on unpicking them or unlearning them. But like I said, lots of other things can help you get there too, like meeting new people and having good chats, taking drugs that change your perspective, travelling, reading books. All of the above combined.
- Comment on Redditors told me to go to the therapist but I can’t afford one nor pick one from thousands available. What now? 3 weeks ago:
Therapy is one tool that can assist personal growth. You could also try reading into Stoicism or make friends you can talk to candidly or take some acid.
- Comment on Cause-effect was always a broken narrative. Twice-broken when you attach a pricetag. 3 weeks ago:
If you’d explained things more articulately to begin with it would have saved you a lot of time!
Ok, you’re not dismissing cause and effect as a whole (i.e. You believe if I pushed a domino over and it fell, I caused it to fall) but don’t believe cause and effect necessarily applies when the effect is the result of a transaction. There are often circumstances where multiple causes result in an effect. e.g. I hadn’t been sleeping well, hadn’t been eating properly and caught a cold, with the effect of failing an exam.
- Comment on Cause-effect was always a broken narrative. Twice-broken when you attach a pricetag. 3 weeks ago:
If you don’t want to engage in discourse, why even start a thread?
But ok, you think that events don’t happen because they’re instigated by something else. If I push a domino over, it falls. If I didn’t cause it, what do you think did?
- Comment on Cause-effect was always a broken narrative. Twice-broken when you attach a pricetag. 3 weeks ago:
Maybe expand on your point if you want some discussion, your statement doesn’t really make any sense.
- Comment on Our workless young: a scandal we cannot ignore 5 weeks ago:
Yeah, it has been at least since I was that age and I’m in my late 30s now. Basically, if you don’t have wealthy parents (or at the very least, parents you can share a house with), you’re fucked.
- Comment on Our workless young: a scandal we cannot ignore 5 weeks ago:
I mean, the current minimum wage for 18-21s is £8.60 an hour. I wouldn’t work for that either, it’s not like you could support yourself on that wage. If I had kids that age, obviously I’d want them to get an education but I also wouldn’t force them to work for a pittance.
- Comment on GoneWild was once about people feeling wild and posting pictures of it. Now it's just OnlyFans sale 1 month ago:
Actually, when GW was formed, one of the rules was that you HAD to include your face. Different times though, I’m glad that obviously isn’t the case now.