Windex007
@Windex007@lemmy.world
- Comment on Not stealing 3 hours ago:
I don’t have the current capacity to give this the response it deserves, so I’m going to hit a few key points of where I believe misunderstanding exists and then let you reevaluate what points still need pressing.
I don’t think I’ve ever moved the goalposts. My initial comment is what it always was, that you don’t CURRENTLY have a toddler. I think this is directly relevant to my thesis that parenting evaluations from people who aren’t themselves currently experiencing it need to be weighed as such (certainly not authoritative, and divorced from the reality of the experience)
Nextly, I think it’s worth deconstructing two things:
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did the observer genuinely think it was a kidnapping ?
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why did the father feel the need to justify?
I’m going to say “probably not” to the first, and to the second probably because of the keen awareness that parents have about how much people love the armchair deconstruction of their parenting. Thankfully, I got some great advice very early on from another parent which was, in short, to get comfortable ignoring the musings of others on the subject of parenting.
But I do think, after reading your post, it would probably make me more inclined to feel the need to justify myself if I were I in the same situation. How do I convince this bystander I’m X, Y, or Z? This person is trying to gather the variables to ultimately determine what I’m doing wrong as a parent.
I also don’t think it’s realistic that you can’t move a tantruming toddler through a public space… Especially if the immediate destination is the car. This hits me as very dogmatic.
The car, for example, IS my kids happy place. It IS the best place to calm him down. Get in the car and sing John Denver together. It seems, to me, cruel to deprive him of that even if I know he’s going to be pissed off on the way there.
I can respond more fully when I’m off mobile… And maybe I’ve over-attributed judgement on your part. I think you’ve read much more into the original post than is there, and have mentally constructed a scenario much more disturbing than it was. I think the dad calling the kid an asshole was what made it post-worthy, not some level of violence.
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- Comment on Not stealing 4 hours ago:
Yes, there is a point I’m trying to make, which is it’s intrinsic to the human condition to paint a much rosier version of your own childrearing experiences once they’re historical.
The internet is awash with new parents wildly frustrated with how incredibly out-of-touch the platitudes they hear about their experience even coming from other older parents.
Your original comment is just that. Judgemental and out of touch. You can make a kid act like that? A screaming toddler? There will certainly be times when nothing you can do within the laws of physics can PREVENT them from acting like that. My toddler threw a hysterical fit because the garage door can’t be SIMULTANEOUSLY open AND closed. No, son, I know you believe Daddy can do anything but quantum super positions are even out of my hands.
Should the guy have called his kid an asshole? No.
How harshly should you judge them for it? In that moment? Probably not very.
- Comment on Not stealing 4 hours ago:
If I was going to take a kid from a stork, you think I’d take THIS one?
- Comment on Not stealing 4 hours ago:
had
- Comment on Not stealing 4 hours ago:
10:1 odds that neither of you currently have a toddler.
- Comment on Mark Zuckerberg freezes AI hiring amid bubble fears 3 days ago:
Maybe what you’re referring to? Over a billion over several years?
- Comment on It Took Many Years And Billions Of Dollars, But Microsoft Finally Invented A Calculator That Is Wrong Sometimes 4 days ago:
Excel is still doing the calculations, not the AI. The AI is helping to write functions.
This distinction is immaterial. This is like a big child grabbing a smaller child’s hand and slapping them with their own hand saying “quit hitting yourself”. It’s like trying to get out of a speeding ticket by saying all you did was push the accelerator… Truely it was the fuel injectors forcing the vehicle to an illegal speed.
Just because you’ve adjusted the abstraction layer at which you’ve ceded deterministic outcomes, doesn’t mean AI isn’t doing it.
You can easily spot check a couple examples then apply that same formula down the column.
This may be appropriate in some scenarios, specifically:
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When accuracy isn’t important
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When you will never need to justify what is being done to anyone (including yourself)
This, however, covers a decidedly small portion of professional work done using Excel.
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- Comment on What's your thoughts on this? 1 week ago:
If my goal was to try and damage the organization of groups looking to drive environmental initiatives, this is what I’d do. One of the things, anyways.
- Comment on If I stood on a precision scale and farted, would I get lighter or heavier? 1 week ago:
It would have to expand your abdomen slightly, assuming you don’t have access to a fourth dimension.
- Comment on Shit's getting real 2 weeks ago:
Lol, yeah, THAT strategy would keep it at 99 cents.
- Comment on Sounds like a plan 2 weeks ago:
Right now my company calls it “Investing in IST”
- Comment on Need a keyboard with a dedicated "slop" button 2 weeks ago:
… Did they both involve sending weapons to Israel?
- Comment on Need a keyboard with a dedicated "slop" button 3 weeks ago:
If you want to take this one step further, it’s the the inevitable result of identity politics in general.
Once you decide to generalize away per-issue stances just to paint them “left or right”, “red or blue”, “my team your team” then it becomes trivial to make an argument that both sides are the same, or conversely that both sides are polar opposites. Whatever suits you.
Republicans and Democrats both shovelled weapons to Israel. They are thus, as a whole, identical. Indistinguishable. Republicans are erasing reproductive Rights. Democrats are trying to guarantee them. They are thus, as a whole, complete polar opposites.
Generalizing from the specific is a convenient mechanism, but error prone, and it leads to absolute trash discourse… Which in turn leads to a failure of consensus for specific demands to make during a protest.
“No Kings” isn’t realistically actionable.
- Comment on Lemmy is a tech literate echo chamber 3 weeks ago:
If he doesn’t solve problems with chmod 777 then he’s already more competent than the ops teams at my fortune 500 company
- Comment on Why are there so many german communities on Lemmy? 5 weeks ago:
Can confirm, I’m instinctively drawn to servers in my geographic proximity despite that being a completely opaque property of the internet like a moth to a flame
- Comment on I'm not sure if I'm the stupidest smart person I know, or the smartest stupid person. 5 weeks ago:
Of you don’t know anyone you could be both
- Comment on [deleted] 1 month ago:
I see it ALL the time, across MANY domains.
Language, music, golf, programming, driving, competitive gaming, etc etc.
It’s not necessarily a bad thing; it’s WAY more effort to push for improvement. Once you’ve gotten to the point where your skills are serving your needs, is that what you want to invest your finite energy into? Maybe not. God knows I’m not actively trying to improve on every skill I have. Very few. Most of my things (music, games, sport) are just to have fun. If you’re having fun you’re probably not really improving, and that’s ok.
But when people lament that they’ve hit a wall on a skill, in my experience it’s this effect, MUCH more than any other.
I think if OP reflected on their already MASSIVE achievement of becoming functional in another language, they’d likely conclude that their skills rapidly increased up until the point that they had a functional level of the skill, and then hit a plateau once they subconsciously began expending less active effort on improvement.
- Comment on [deleted] 1 month ago:
I think when people are learning some new skill, eventually they reach a proficiency where they stop actively working on improving. Instead, they’ll transition from “improving the skill” to “applying the skill”.
Practice does not make “perfect”. Practice makes permanent.
- Comment on I think better when I'm calm. So it follows that getting calmer will make me smarter. 1 month ago:
Gonna pull out my hair splitting razors for a moment…
OP didn’t say more intelligent, they said smarter.
Can one get smarter? Does “smart” conceptually include the quanity of acquired information? Does the quality of thought impact the ability to acquire new information? Does smart include the concept applying knowledge appropriately? Is the ability to do that informed by the quality of thought?
We might have different definitions for a lot of these words, but I think I gotta say “yes” to all of them.
I’m not this guy so I can only guess their experience, but the more time they’re able to spend in a mental state that maximizes the quality of their thought processes, I would expect it would help them learn new things and more effectively apply that knowledge. I’m contented to say that counts as smart.
So ya: More think good make more smarter that guy.
- Comment on Ahem, well well 1 month ago:
I’m so far beyond the point of caring how people look at me, and so far past the point of wanting to talk to anyone.
What you’ve just described would be considered total victory.
- Comment on Ahem, well well 1 month ago:
My strategy for overcoming this is to congratulate myself out loud so they know not to answer until I’m done.
- Comment on Honda successfully launched and landed its own reusable rocket 2 months ago:
Guess we doin rockets now
- Comment on If a sandwich is defined as any food item between two pieces of bread, then a layer cake is a type of sandwich. 2 months ago:
Cakes predate the Earl of Sandwich so really a sandwich is a subset of cake
- Comment on PROGRESS 2 months ago:
Poinignant illustration of a flux capacitor
- Comment on [deleted] 2 months ago:
Directly from my ass, it’s my assumption that the primary maintainers just don’t have an incentivize the cost of supporting older devices and the disparate hardware configurations.
Like, planned obscellesance or not, smartphone churn is going to happen anyways. People lose them, smash them, fall into a pool with them, decide they NEED the newer camera soldered into them, etc…
It’s not like there are old phones in a closet somewhere propping up business critical infrastructure like with computers.
The cost vs utility of maintaining forward features and security patches for a massive catalog of hardware configurations just isn’t there.
- Comment on What's the best way to respond to someone who says "transracial is just as valid as transgender"? 2 months ago:
They’re either trying to get your goat, or it’s genuine. Either way, it’s not making the world any better by bestowing upon yourself the title of judge and enforcer. You’re either taking bait or you’re a fucking cop. “Ok” is all you gotta say.
- Comment on What's the best way to respond to someone who says "transracial is just as valid as transgender"? 2 months ago:
I’m uncomfortable with the idea that the only reason that being trans is valid is because of biological factors.
If we could construct a human that came into existence without being Female at some gestational point, you gonna tell them they can’t be trans? If someone has a thyroid problem such that they their body CAN’T handle a sex hormone, you gonna tell them they can’t be trans?
I feel like we’re looking for a 9-D chess play when a 1-D play is sufficient: you say you’re trans, you’re trans.
- Comment on ‘Fake, baseless’: Israel denies Iran’s claim of downing two F-35 jets, capturing woman pilot 2 months ago:
I wouldn’t have believed it until the “fake media” comment and now I 100% do
- Comment on Is there a way I can easily set up my own federated instance for free or no? 2 months ago:
Why?
- Comment on There's a lot to be known about me by knowing who my exes are, what my favorite songs are to sing in the car, and my fast food orders. 2 months ago:
Be me None any anime theme song exclusively chicken tenders. Should I be concerned anons?