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- Comment on is this the right way to establish boundaries with my nosy coworkers at the hospital? 4 days ago:
I can’t image HR getting a complaint that you aren’t making small talk, and saying “That’s outrageous! We’ll demand his medical records right now!”
HR exists to keep the company from getting sued, and I think there’s a lot less risk for them to tell one employee “He doesn’t want to talk to you, deal with it.” vs demanding medical records for a non-work-role related issue.
- Comment on is this the right way to establish boundaries with my nosy coworkers at the hospital? 5 days ago:
You said you were out sick for 4 weeks? Do they know why? Maybe you could spin that, say “sorry, I got some scarring in my throat and talking can make it worse, so I really need to only talk about work or I’ll be up all night in pain”. Or something like that.
Or you could try “sorry, I like working with you, and I know I’ve talked in the past, but I need to admit that I have Asperger’s/autism, and trying to make small talk is very stressful for me, so I hope you’re not offended but I feel like I’m going to burn out unless I make some changes like sticking to only work-oriented discussions from now on. Thank you for your understanding.”
Bonus points if you type that up and hand it to people, like you can’t even tell it to then directly.
I know both my answers are “lie in a way that makes you look abnormal” which you may feel like isn’t something you should have to do. Which is true. But you want to minimize them thinking you’re judging them, and they KNOW you are able to talk, so the best way I see is to make them think it’s a problem you have, not about them.
🤷♂️ Good luck!
- Comment on [deleted] 5 days ago:
I vote starvation. I think a big percent of the world will starve, with a few countries holding out. A bit later I think all those people will starve too, with only like 20 billionaires surviving. And then when THEY run out of food a few years later, I dunno, they’ll OD on drugs?
- Comment on The best way to keep feeling young is to remove all of your mirrors. 1 month ago:
Uhhh… Remove mirrors and wear gloves.
- Comment on Chinese battery developer unveils new tech with 1,300-mile range that could revolutionize EVs: 'An important piece of the puzzle' 2 months ago:
If we just attached a generator to the battery industry, all these revolutions would solve our energy needs!
- Comment on Tesla profits nosedive as more job cuts announced 2 months ago:
Nut job cut jobs
- Comment on The Lyrics Game - Where AI tests you lyrical prowess 2 months ago:
Is there a good way to view the images without having seen the title first?
- Comment on Public urged to be on guard as deepfake content will grow more sophisticated: Experts 5 months ago:
I’d like to go ahead and preemptively express my concerns that this technology could be used to create convincing videos of a person dropping multiple mini doughnuts on the floor, at which point they start crying, sit down, and then start eating the doughnuts off the floor. If such a video ever surfaces of me, we’ll know my fears were well founded.
If you’ll excuse me, I need to finish off these doug-…this paperwork.
- Comment on Cox Media Group claims to be listening to private conversations to sell advertisements 6 months ago:
They’re like “we should address the fact that this product sounds exactly like a bleak dystopian future”
- Comment on Fallout TV Show - Trailer 6 months ago:
I think part of why creators don’t include fans in the process is to avoid the possibility of a lawsuit like “I said there should be a super-mutant/brotherhood of steel secret relationship, and they used my idea! I’m entitled to money!”
Maybe 🤷♂️
- Comment on I'll just be a quick 3h 6 months ago:
A view is a saved query that pretends it’s a table. It doesn’t actually store any data. So if you need to query 10 different tables, joining them together and filtering the results specific ways, a view would just be that saved query, so instead of "SELECT * FROM " you can do “SELECT * FROM HandyView”
- Comment on I'll just be a quick 3h 6 months ago:
Somebody tell this dude about views.
- Comment on The Weekly 'What are you playing?' Discussion 7 months ago:
I finally got a steam deck and I can’t decide what to play on it. Most recently I dusted off Hand of Fate 2 and I’m having fun with that all over again.
- Comment on So that's why Google wants you to use Chrome on your iPhone so badly 7 months ago:
This is the best comment I can make.
I agree
- Comment on [I just watched] Spider-Man - Across the Spider-Verse 8 months ago:
Yeah, the first one was a masterpiece in timing, and balance between story/action/comedy. This second one was great, I really enjoyed it, but the action scenes and the story development scenes both dragged on a little too long. Like why did they have the meeting with the school councilor and his Dad’s party? I feel like they both did a lot of the same thing, and probably could have been combined.
There were a lot of laughs, but the laugh-per-minute ratio was lower just because I think there were less jokes, and the movie was longer.
Anyways, still very very enjoyable, but yeah I totally agree the first one is superior
- Comment on [deleted] 9 months ago:
“The importance of URLs to articles.”
- Comment on FEMA and FCC Plan Nationwide Emergency Alert Test for Oct. 4, 2023. Messages Will be Sent to All TVs, Radios and Cell Phones 9 months ago:
I look forward to the Qultist’s excuses when everyone who got the vaccine is still alive on Oct 5th (as I expect they’re going to spend the next 28 days saying how 5g is going to activate the vaccines and kill all the sheeples who got the shot.)
- Comment on 'No-water' hydropower turns England's hills into green and pleasant batteries 10 months ago:
Very cool. Do we know what the fluid is? Does it pose any health risks if it somehow leaks into the groundwater?
- Comment on [HN] Engineer slapped with suspension after bridge collapsed hours after opening 10 months ago:
The fact that this is about a bridge made the phrase “slapped with a suspension” a bit confusing.
- Comment on A former executive says he was fired by Salesforce after raising concerns about software said to process and organize customer data in milliseconds: 'It was all a lie.' 10 months ago:
Oh man, I haven’t thought about RvB in so long, thank you 😂
“The Sarge is still a Lieutenant? Oh. My. God. The teleporter sent me back in time!”
- Comment on A former executive says he was fired by Salesforce after raising concerns about software said to process and organize customer data in milliseconds: 'It was all a lie.' 10 months ago:
I wonder what their defense will be. “You said it would process in milliseconds, but it took hours to complete!!”
“Sure, it took hours…but it still happened in milliseconds, too…”
- Comment on [HN] NASA's Software Catalog offers hundreds of new software programs for free 10 months ago:
What is your definition of “offers” because from the few I checked, you have to request them, and they have this disclaimer “This software is only available for use by federal employees and contractors to the federal government working on projects where this tool would be applicable.”
- Comment on [deleted] 10 months ago:
I’m not sure if this is a good thing or a bad thing.
- Comment on I’ve finally seen everything Trek. 10 months ago:
- Comment on If Google succeeds with the new DRM policy, will that affect functionality of browsers like firefox which uses a different engine? 11 months ago:
That sounds nice but there’s no guarantee they’ll implement it, or if they do, that they won’t just remove it someday down the road. This could just be a way for them to avoid criticism for now, and when criticism has died down a bit, they can just remove it.