Sybilvane

@Sybilvane@lemmy.ca

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What's the deal with male loneliness?⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago⁩:

  While I agree about third places, I think it’s interesting that you then focused on dating.

  Loneliness means lack of friendships and family ties as well. I think a lot of men are focused on dating, and even when they are in a relationship, they use that as their only source of socialization outside the workplace. A lot of the barriers that exist for one are true for the rest as well, it is hard to make friends nowadays as an adult! There are so many people that stop trying, and it isn’t surprising.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why do the majority of women still take their partner's last name?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  I’m from a different culture than my husband and my last name was a bureaucratic nightmare. Almost didn’t make it into university because of computer mix ups, have had issues filing taxes, voting, getting a passport, settings basic IDs, getting insurance… It’s endless. Changed my name as soon as I could, and even THAT process was hindered by my original name.

  Bonuses: Distance myself from social media I had as a child. Harder for former stalkers to locate me if they decide to rekindle their previous obsessions. Don’t need to upset one set of grandparents when you name your children one parent’s last name and not the other. People stop asking me where I’m from and making racist assumptions about me. Everyone seems a lot friendlier now that they assume I’m [insert European white race here] instead of [insert non-white race here] and that’s despite the fact that I’m clearly white. Racism is wild. My signature is way shorter.

  Not saying this should be the norm, but I was happy it was a socially acceptable option for me.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨YSK there is a massive Google Doc of U.S. gynecologists that will tie your tubes without asking about your kids, marital status or age.⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I was thirteen years old when I went to the doctor by myself because a cut on my eyelid wasn’t healing. I was asked about my birth control, sexual activity, and whether I thought I could be pregnant (after saying I’ve never had sex) then pushed out of the examination room after NOT having my eye examined at all.

  As an adult, I realize now how terrible that was and I would have done something about it if it had happened to me today. But at the time I was so embarrassed and hurt, I just pushed all thought of it away until years later.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Have fun with this one⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Breakfast on a pear?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨tremendous⁩ ⁨⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  People have most certainly felt electricity.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Security footage of Boeing repair before door-plug blowout was overwritten⁩ ⁨⁨9⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  The doubt is sounding quite reasonable.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Tech bros' attitude to female colleagues stuck in dark ages⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago⁩:

  It’s happened in education and the inverse happened in computing.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨People Are Okay With Wind & Solar Installations In Their Neighborhoods, Studies Say⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago⁩:

  You can have municipal regulations and be free to decide what to do with your own property aside from that. Most of the world does it and things work just fine, with the added benefit of no HOA troubles.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Watching TV shows or movies that display Russia as a military superpower is almost surreal nowadays.⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago⁩:

  Lol Cuba can’t even afford bullets for military training.