Submitted 2 weeks ago by noretus@crazypeople.online to showerthoughts@lemmy.world
Children are little attention vampires, no matter how much do you give, they will always want more.
That said, fucking phones always in our hands are a disrespect to them, so while I don't give a lot of attention, mine is 100% pure*.
*Terms and agreements might apply.
Sorry to be a former little vampire (now a grown vampire), but I crave my parents’ affection and approval so fucking much.
I’d literally have a panic attack if I had to go out on the world on my own…
Idk why my brain is this fucked up, but I have this weird separation anxiety and trauma bond with parents, especially my mom.
Even as they are emotionally abusive with me at the same time.
I remember every time my older brother fights me, I just want to run to mom, and I did. I literally ran away from home when I was 6 because I felt so scare at home, I just went to my mom’s workplace to look for her.
That incident scarred me for life.
I’ve been seeing a therapist to help deal with my massive amounts of anxiety and I believe a good amount of it is separation anxiety (along with fears of letting people down and low self esteem). I’m 30 and have never moved away from my parents. Mostly it was cause I couldn’t afford to since I worked a minimum wage job, but now I probably could afford a cheap apartment close to work if my mind didn’t run haywire at the thought of not being around my parents and helping them daily. My mother passed away a couple weeks ago and so much work I’ve put into managing my anxiety feels like it has come undone cause I no longer have the main person in my life that felt they really understood me and was constantly pushing me to better myself.
Attention is a function of dopamine & serotonin production over time.
Almost everything about being human reduces down to a handful of neurotransmitters.
Those neurotransmitters just release electrical impulses so if you want to break it down everything about humans reduces down to electricity traveling through out meat
Neurotransmitters are chemicals used for communication, but i uderstand what you mean.
Yes, but the key detail is governance. There’s specific molecules that, without them, there is no attention to be sought. Paying attention or “having willpower” is causally linked to these specific compounds being present in the meat.
Much of “free will” boils down to regulation of these neurotransmitters.
No.
And what are neurotransmitters?
If you typed this into your address bar youd have an answer instead of a downvote. lol
Neurotransmitters are chemicals used by terminal buttons to carry information across the synaptic gap to the dendrite of the recipient neuron.
Attention takes time.
Does it? I put all my attention on your post and could do so instantly. Sustaining attention of course takes as long time as it does.
Attention isn’t always good, being followed around by a person who can’t pick up social cues who wants to give you all of their attention doesn’t feel good
A girl who wants to hang out with her friends being given unwanted attention by men doesn’t feel good
If I am driving down the road and a cop decides to give me his attention which in the process of, takes away my time and money I am surely going to be upset
Time matters because it’s a limited resource, someone giving you their time means that they have decided to give some of that limited resources to you. It doesn’t always need to be in the form of attention, if I hire a maid and they save me 2 hours of time I don’t need them to sit there and give me attention
Attention isn’t always good, being followed around by a person who can’t pick up social cues who wants to give you all of their attention doesn’t feel good
Actually this is kinda what I was thinking when I wrote the last bit. I was specifically thinking about ASMR actually and how ASMRtists are at risk for unhealthy attention and attachments from people who look at them for hours and hours. However it’s a bit besides my point. Your attention remains valuable to you (one hopes) but obviously unwanted attention is… well, unwanted. There’s a big tangent of course on if someone giving unwanted attention to someone else is really giving their attention to that person, or are they giving their attention to their personal, subjective idea about that person (I’d argue the latter, because I prefer to give attention as a concept a somewhat virtuous vibe - because I want to encourage people to value their attention).
Time matters because it’s a limited resource
So is attention. We can multitask to some degree but sooner or later the plates will start falling. But as I said, you can put a number on time but you can’t give 3.5 attentions to something. For the human mind it’s easier to grasp the idea of “giving time” because you can measure, compare and contrast it. Attention just is, and it’s extremely subjective specifically because in daily life it’s very hard to know if someone is objectively giving their full attention to something or are they just physically present while engaging with something entirely different in their mind.
The world is illiterate 🥲
To give someone time is to give them your attention
No, I don’t think so. You can be physically present somewhere while your attention is in whatever is going on in your head. Though I grant you that in that case you’re not doing either very well.
Then you aren’t giving them your time
Get it?
I never say time is money.
I always say time is the only non-renewable resource.
Time is happiness. You can win a lottery and become a millionaire overnight. You cannot buy more time on this earth even with all the money in the world.
Attention is what helps achieve happiness with your time.
Time I have, energy… no.
givesomefucks@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
You.
You crave attention, lots of people don’t
You shouldn’t assume everyone else thinks like you and is built like you, it’s never true and a sign of low empathy
Deebster@infosec.pub 2 weeks ago
The attention economy is definitely a thing that corporations are very interested in, I think you’ve missed the overall point of OP’s post in your righteous zeal.
givesomefucks@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Yes…
Advertisers want you to pay attention to ads…
Unless OP is a corporation trying to get people to buy things, I don’t see the connection besides the word “attention”.
But I don’t think I’m gonna be able to help you understand that if that didn’t work
Anuttara@leminal.space 2 weeks ago
lol this reads exactly like some kid saying “LOOK HOW I DON’T CARE, LOOK HOW LITTLE I CARE, LOOK AT ME FOR NOT CARING AT ALL, I’M TOTALLY BEYOND CARING” xDDD
DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works 2 weeks ago
u/givesomefucks does not give a fuck at all
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