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It’s negging.
Manipulative bullshit insult with a half-excuse tacked in.
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Submitted 7 months ago by blondebabe@reddthat.com to nostupidquestions@lemmy.world
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Deestan@lemmy.world 7 months ago
unknownuserunknownlocation@kbin.earth 7 months ago
It's an announcement to stay as far away as possible from whoever said that. Might even call it negging.
zeropointone@lemmy.world 7 months ago
[deleted]Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world 7 months ago
I know a lot of charming people that are pretty dumb.
sanguinepar@lemmy.world 7 months ago
Depends on context - if said amiably between friends, it could be fine.
In the context of your comment about it being your boss who said it, and why, I’d say it’s pretty insulting (if not necessarily an intended insult).
It’s pretty dismissive of you as a person, instead focusing on your value (to his bar) in terms of attracting male customers. It’s not very respectful of you tbh.
Nemo@slrpnk.net 7 months ago
both, one of each
7uWqKj@lemmy.world 7 months ago
It’s a compliment because it means that you’re going to be very successful, have a lot of friends and a good time and great sex. Sure, your conversations will be shallow and your relationships superficial, but you’ll be too dumb to mind. Ignorance is a bliss, and who likes a smartass anyway.
meco03211@lemmy.world 7 months ago
Sounds similar to being told, “At least you’re pretty,” after saying something stupid.
IWW4@lemmy.zip 7 months ago
I am trying to get my mind how anyone could consider that a compliment, or how anyone could be a big enough asshole to say that to someone.
blondebabe@reddthat.com 7 months ago
[deleted]shishka_b0b@lemmy.zip 7 months ago
You normally work 7 days a week and you’re the only attractive woman that works as a bartender on the beach at a vacation destination?
whyNotSquirrel@sh.itjust.works 7 months ago
is there a way for you to work in another place ?
cloudless@piefed.social 7 months ago
Insult. Unless you’re so smart that it is obviously a joke.
whyNotSquirrel@sh.itjust.works 7 months ago
then you’re ugly is the real point?
vk6flab@lemmy.radio 7 months ago
It’s an insult with a poor attempt at pretending that it’s not.
Recommendation: Find a better friend.
frightful_hobgoblin@lemmy.ml 7 months ago
Relax
Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world 7 months ago
This would mean completely different things depending on who said it.
If it’s coming from a male friend, it’s a joke compliment. We razz each other all the time and I’d probably laugh and appreciate the acknowledgement of my charm.
Anyone I don’t know that well, shouldn’t be saying anything like that.