Feeling insecure about going to a 'girlie pop' concert as a 30 year old man, am i overthinking it?

Submitted ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩ by ⁨Mike_Hunt@lemmy.ml⁩ to ⁨nostupidquestions@lemmy.world⁩

My wife and I are going to a concert in a few months which is considered ‘girl pop’ and we have standing tickets. I wanted to get a look at what a show by this artist is like, so I search YouTube just to find it’s a bunch of young adult woman screaming anytime something is done like a dance move as an example, but this just isn’t me.

I have a worry that someone is going to start filming me for being ‘grumpy’ or whatever, usually I wouldn’t think this much into it, but I’m already going to be sticking out like a sore thumb and in the current year I always assume I’m in the background of someone’s video at any given moment and I don’t want my awkwardness being confused for anything else other than what it is.

Am I in over my head, or should I just not overthink it and try to enjoy myself?

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zero@fek.xyz ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
What band / singer?

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- witty_username@feddit.nl ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
  Wrong answers only
  
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  - Skua@kbin.earth ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
    Feminazgul
    
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  - evening_push579@feddit.nu ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
    Twice
    
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  - napkin2020@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
    BTS
    
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- Mike_Hunt@lemmy.ml ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
  Jade Thirlwall, former member of little mix
  
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  - zero@fek.xyz ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
    You must really love your wife haha. Seriously, try to enjoy the concert. You're already going, so you might as well try to enjoy yourself.
    
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ICastFist@programming.dev ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

I have a worry that someone is going to start filming me for being ‘grumpy’ or whatever

Embrace your future memetic fame

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InEnduringGrowStrong@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
Don’t overthink it, have fun, bring good earplugs.
No seriously, there are plugs meant for shows, designed to not butcher it too much, merely attenuate it all a bit.
First, you’ll avoid tinnitus.
Second, it blocks out quite a bit of the other show-goers background noise.

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kandoh@reddthat.com ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
It would only be weird if you went alone

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kernelle@0d.gs ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
If you’re taller, always make sure there aren’t any shorter people behind you. If you’re having fun, smile, move a little, enjoy the atmosphere. You’ve got nothing to worry about and have a great time!

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- Mike_Hunt@lemmy.ml ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
  im 6’5, better opt of a hack saw before the show i guess.
  
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  - kernelle@0d.gs ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
    Hah, just be aware and courteous and it really won’t matter.
    
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BuboScandiacus@mander.xyz ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
You’re going with your get-out-of-jail card wife

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fxomt@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
Have fun! Don’t overthink it.

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phoenixz@lemmy.ca ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
Nah, just go and enjoy yourself

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- Skua@kbin.earth ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
  I'm surprised to someone say that they don't think standing tickets are allowed any more, what gave you that impression?
  
  Regardless, being in the standing section is exciting and usually a very good view. It's not necessarily the right atmosphere for every person or every show, but if you enjoy the feeling of being in the crowd as everyone moves together it's great
  
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- prole@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
  
  With that said why on earth did you get standing tickets? That just sounds miserable and I didn’t think those were even allowed anymore
  
  I’ve literally never been to a concert that had seating
  
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- Mike_Hunt@lemmy.ml ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
  Standing because i have only ever been to one concert 11 years ago and it was in the cheap seats and i do enjoy the music as does my wife but I’m just a very reserved person and i felt like being in a crowd id be the sore thumb but as others have said i doubt anyone is going to be looking at me
  
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  - prole@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
    Don’t listen to them, standing section is almost always the right move.
    
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  - Skua@kbin.earth ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
    You'll be fine! Especially since you're there with your wife, you've got good company to distract you from whatever anyone else is doing is the show isn't already doing that. All sorts of people show up at concerts, even if they don't always show up in the photos and videos of those concerts as much
    
    I went to a Heilung gig a few years back (incredible experience, by the way) and it was really funny in a lovely way to look at the crowd. It was like a straight 50/50 split of people that looked like the very stereotype of 60s hippies and equally stereotypical metalheads. We all had a great time together
    
    I'm quite a tall guy and a not the most outgoing a lot of the time, so I do understand how it's easy to feel like you're sticking out in a crowd. Thing is though, everyone is there to see the act, not to people-wstch the audience
    
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Takapapatapaka@tarte.nuage-libre.fr ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
I'm not sure about "girl pop" concert vibe, but i don't see much video pointing out at people in the crowd in concerts (in fact, i only remember one, and it's not really being mean at the person). Also there may be some kind of survivor paradox here : the video you see of young adult woman may not be a realistic depiction of the crowd, there probably is people just chilling, but they're less interesting to film, so there's less video about them. I'd say enjoy yourself !

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