Submitted 4 days ago by peachgelato@lemmy.zip to nostupidquestions@lemmy.world
i just got my tubes tied at 23. I think I felt so strongly about it because pregnancy would be destroying my own body. You don’t really have to worry too much about that, but I still understand wanting to make the decision young. IVF would be an option for me if I were to change my mind. Maybe get some frozen just in case? Adoption is also a wonderful option! Best wishes
Are you in an emergency? And have you evaluated alternatives ?
There are long but reversible ways to avoid male’s fertility ; such as temperature method ; which aren’t advertised because they are not profitable to sellers.
Basically, at body temperature, balls don’t produce semen (they are naturally hanging out in order to be cold enough). So any tight and heat keeping underware may work. Maintain them at body temperature at least 16h a day. After 2 monthes, check your sperm count with over the counter tests, if your count is clearly too low you are doing things right.
To reverse it, wear underwares that allow your balls to hang and refresh themselves. Count 2 to 3 monthes to fully recover.
There are also chimical alternatives, and some tools to make the temperature method “more secure” (if that tools really work).
Vasectomy may still be the best for you, but you may feel more confident in doing it if you know why you prefers it to alternatives.
Vasectomys are reversible and not wanting to have kids at the age of 22 is fairly sensible.
Also, if you really change your mind, adoption is a perfectly valid option for kids. No shortage of children in this country who need a loving household. You don’t even need to get your dick dirty if you decide you want kids later in life.
I don’t think so. If you are certain you don’t want kids now, great. Get the snip and don’t worry about nutting raw and deep(with the consent of your partner).
Worst case you can later get a reversal that has a detrimental effect to fertility the longer that you have had a vasectomy, which means you will just need to try more.
The_Picard_Maneuver@lemmy.world 4 days ago
It’s nobody’s decision but yours, but I will point out that as humans, we are very poor predictors of how we will think or feel in the future.
When we’re depressed, our brains process thoughts of the future as if we’ll be sad forever. When we’re happy and have lots of energy, we make big plans as if we’ll always feel that way. Lottery winners feel an initial euphoria and think they’re set for life, but studies show their mood returns to baseline after about 1 year. Age and development helps you push the fog of foresight a little further, but it’s still hard.
I don’t know you, but if I were speaking to myself at age 22, I would caution making a decision like that so early. I still cringe about being tasked with picking a college major at 18 and how wrong that could’ve gone, and this is easily 100x more important.