like “supporting” someone with adhd but hating them and believing they should be shunned or treated differently for interrupting others, not paying attention, and not being able to sit still, rather than try to help them or tell them not to interrupt the conversation.
You can believe that people stuck in wheelchairs deserve equal access to public spaces via accommodations like ramps or elevators, and still hate Ted, who happens to be paraplegic, because he is a hateful, racist, fascist MAGA jerk. In this case, your shunning of Ted is not ableist because the reason you treat Ted differently is unrelated to his disability and you are well aware of the fact. He doesn’t get a pass for things unrelated to his disability.
However, if you are aware of someones disability and treat them prejudiciously because of it (or it’s symptoms) then you are the ableist jerk. If you are the one with a disability and people treat you in a prejudicious manner because your disabilities or their symptoms, then they are jerks and not friends.
some_guy@lemmy.sdf.org 10 months ago
You need better friends. It sounds like you’re probably fairly young. Dunno if that’s true, but young people can be real shitheads who talk about each other behind their backs. I did that when I was in my teens and maybe early twenties. If that’s the case, know that most people grow out of that phase. If you’re older than I’m guessing, maybe try to explore how to make friends with people who are more mature. I’m afraid I don’t have pithy advice on that.