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Probably a good idea to let him know how you are being treated.
My partner and I deal with toxic family by cutting them out of our lives. Only got time for kind people.
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Submitted 1 day ago by newfullmoon@reddthat.com to nostupidquestions@lemmy.world
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TheIvoryTower@lemmy.world 1 day ago
DarkFuture@lemmy.world 1 day ago
Family has to earn and maintain your respect just like anyone else.
If they degrade the quality of your life, it’s ok to cut them out to help your own mental health. If they care about you they’ll learn to respect you for who you are…as long as you’re not hurting others with your decisions.
RamblingPanda@lemmynsfw.com 22 hours ago
I totally agree, but it doesn’t sound as if they had the financial means to cut them out yet.
tetris11@lemmy.ml 22 hours ago
If you want free childcare, there are bitter pills you have to daily swallow
RamblingPanda@lemmynsfw.com 22 hours ago
They’re 16 and in school. Even if they’re married, let them just have some time for themselves and to grow into their lives. Even if, it doesn’t sound as if it was worth it.
wesker@lemmy.sdf.org 22 hours ago
16F
Damn, at that age I was just trying to get passing grades.
DarkFuture@lemmy.world 1 day ago
You’re so young I don’t even know what to say other than if you know he’s your person then you and he need to sit down and hash out a plan to move into your own place together as soon as humanly possible. Like, within months you need to find a space for you and him to exist in together without others.
You’re already trying to manage a relationship while really really young, and I won’t get into why that’s extra challenging. So having someone else around all the time, whether it’s family or roommates, is just not helpful.
You won’t know if this is going to last with your partner until you both have a space of your own. And since you’re married, you need to figure out whether it’s going to work out sooner than later.
Side Advice: You are 16. You are going to change significantly over the next 10-15 years. You need to feel confident that your partner is going to be with you no matter how much you both morph during that extremely transformative time.