I would be suspicious as hell if some manic pixie dream girl showed up in my life.
It could happen… any day now
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cannedtuna@lemmy.world@lemmy.world to animemes@ani.social
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rumschlumpel@feddit.org 3 weeks ago
- cannedtuna@lemmy.world@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Yeah, but how long does that suspicion hold out?
rumschlumpel@feddit.org 3 weeks ago
Fair, I am pretty lonely.
lian_drake@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago I recently had my experience with a friend I really liked since we first met a couple of years back. Let’s say it didn’t go well and I discovered I have BPD. I already got a no for an answer and tried to move on, but it’s almost impossible. The last time I was this attached to someone, I stayed like that for around 8 years until I met her. Not sure it will be the same this time, but I’m afraid someone else will come and become that person again and repeat the cycle… It’s damn horrible.
MrOtingocni@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
I was just about to respond to the post with:
“Not true, a person who would normally be out of your league but actually has BPD could swoop down on you and ruin your life at any moment”
It’s still funny, but I will pad my attempt at dark humor with a congratulations to you. The sooner a diagnosis is made, the right meds sorted out, and a solid therapy plan set, the sooner you will find relief from the cyclone of emotions and be able to live your life to the fullest.
It’s a tough hand to be dealt but not an impossible one to get squared away and maintained. You undoubtedly have a lot to offer to the world, as well as a special someone, so just keep putting one right step in front of the other and it’ll all work out.
lightnsfw@reddthat.com 3 weeks ago
Not sure how old you are but I eventually got over that. For me being a lot more socially active and hanging out with a bigger group of people helped to get away from that.
- lian_drake@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
22yo here. I am very socially active, but that doesn’t change anything. Borderline Personality Disorder isn’t really something you can get over with by being more sociable, as a matter of fact it sometimes makes it worse, because it makes you feel like you’re in a limbo, not really sure about who or what you are or if you really matter to any of those people. With time I found out that hanging with fewer but way more close friends works better for me. Now regarding emotional attachment to someone (often called FP, Favorite Person), that is very hard to control and often just happens. It is pretty fucked up, but at least I’m somewhat getting used to it and slowly starting to understand it.
angband@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Wut? Happen to me, just hangout in places horny women go to.
mycodesucks@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago Meh… He’s got everything he needs in that room already.
veni_vedi_veni@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Girls don’t exist silly
WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today 3 weeks ago
Meanwhile, a girl did approach me and I didn’t believe her.
Because I was a prude and not believing her was convenient.
Psythik@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Bro you missed out. A girl approached me too, and I did believe her. (Her coworker convinced her to ask me out.)
We’ve been together 8 years and now we own a house. So don’t give up boys, as long as you follow the two rules, she will eventually find you.
(Also, dress well and have a skincare routine; women love men who take care of themselves.)
WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today 3 weeks ago
Well, I will find relief from the awareness once I am dead.
gandalf_der_13te@feddit.org 3 weeks ago be the change that you want to see in the world
- cannedtuna@lemmy.world@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Uhh… go through HRT and approach a lonely guy to kick off the 12 episode rom com?
But what is the alternative, huh? Going outside and approaching someone (in a non-harassing way)? That would be madness.
To be fair “non-harassing way” is a bit subjective. I’ve seen dudes have success with methods that I would consider “harassing”. I’ve also seen guys condemned as creeps for approaching women at what Id consider a reasonable place and time.
And the loudest most unreasonable people on both sides dominate the narrative online, which makes the whole topic seem more fraught tonyoung guys than it really is in real life.
The truth is one person’s “playful teasing” is another person’s “harassment”. You have to develop you sense of empathy and feel it out on a case by case basis. Pretending this black and white doesn’t help anybody.
Yep; and this is a big problem of mine. As I'm quite pessimistic my default assumption is that a simple greeting is likely to result in a negative reaction.
A similar problem is approaching individuals / groups (for whatever reason) in general: are they free to talk to or is that a closed group who would feel bothered? Hard to see from the outside.
I agree. And as long as a no is respected promptly, no harm should be done by trying. But tell this my anxiety...
kahjtheundedicated@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Remember, when trying to start a conversation with a woman, follow rules 1 and 2:
:(
boobookittyfrick@lemmy.zip 3 weeks ago
Yeah I just don’t talk to women out of fear of being sued
no joke but the only thing that works is to know exactly what is and isn’t allowed, and i don’t mean on a vibes-based basis but on a legal basis, and then either accept the legal framework and optimize within it or reject it and become a social outcast (incel / radical).
mctoasterson@reddthat.com 3 weeks ago
Go to the hardware store and pick out light bulbs. It’s annoying because there are so many different kinds. You’ll end up standing there and talking to several people over a 15 minute period, commiserating over lightbulbs mostly. Some of them will be attractive women. There’s your jumping off point.
rumschlumpel@feddit.org 3 weeks ago
Can’t confirm, last time I picked out lightbulbs I dawdled for quite a long time and didn’t talk with anyone.
Unique_Emerald_Sol_I@ani.social 3 weeks ago
I will also wish you a happy cake day! (*･ω･)ﾉ”┌iii┐♡
Thank you (˶ᵔ ᵕ ᵔ˶)
happy roomba day!
Thanks, I guess :D Can you explain the roomba joke to me?