It could happen… any day now

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• mycodesucks@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  Meh… He’s got everything he needs in that room already.

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• green_copper@kbin.earth ⁨6⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  But what is the alternative, huh? Going outside and approaching someone (in a non-harassing way)? That would be madness.

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  • TwistedTurtle@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    To be fair “non-harassing way” is a bit subjective. I’ve seen dudes have success with methods that I would consider “harassing”. I’ve also seen guys condemned as creeps for approaching women at what Id consider a reasonable place and time.

    And the loudest most unreasonable people on both sides dominate the narrative online, which makes the whole topic seem more fraught tonyoung guys than it really is in real life.

    The truth is one person’s “playful teasing” is another person’s “harassment”. You have to develop you sense of empathy and feel it out on a case by case basis. Pretending this black and white doesn’t help anybody.

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    • green_copper@kbin.earth ⁨1⁩ ⁨hour⁩ ago

      To be fair "non-harassing way" is a bit subjective. I've seen dudes have success with methods that I would consider "harassing". I've also seen guys condemned as creeps for approaching women at what I'd consider a reasonable time & place.

      Yep; and this is a big problem of mine. As I'm quite pessimistic my default assumption is that a simple greeting is likely to result in a negative reaction.
      A similar problem is approaching individuals / groups (for whatever reason) in general: are they free to talk to or is that a closed group who would feel bothered? Hard to see from the outside.

      You have to develop your sense of empathy and feel it out on a case by case basis. Pretending this black and white doesn't help anybody.

      I agree. And as long as a no is respected promptly, no harm should be done by trying. But tell this my anxiety...

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    • boobookittyfrick@lemmy.zip ⁨1⁩ ⁨hour⁩ ago

      Yeah I just don’t talk to women out of fear of being sued

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  • mctoasterson@reddthat.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨hour⁩ ago

    Go to the hardware store and pick out light bulbs. It’s annoying because there are so many different kinds. You’ll end up standing there and talking to several people over a 15 minute period, commiserating over lightbulbs mostly. Some of them will be attractive women. There’s your jumping off point.

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    • rumschlumpel@feddit.org ⁨46⁩ ⁨minutes⁩ ago

      Can’t confirm, last time I picked out lightbulbs I dawdled for quite a long time and didn’t talk with anyone.

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  • burido@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    happy roomba day!

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    • green_copper@kbin.earth ⁨4⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      Thanks, I guess :D Can you explain the roomba joke to me?

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• rumschlumpel@feddit.org ⁨6⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  I would be suspicious as hell if some manic pixie dream girl showed up in my life.

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  • cannedtuna@lemmy.world@lemmy.world ⁨6⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Yeah, but how long does that suspicion hold out?

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    • rumschlumpel@feddit.org ⁨6⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      Fair, I am pretty lonely.

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