“Be hot” is subjective, and a lower bar than most people think it is. Taking care of yourself and making an effort to dress nice goes a long way. Personality also plays into it quite a bit. I got a lot more success when I started making an effort to maintain a positive attitude when I was out socializing and I’m someone the incels would tell you has absolutely no chance.
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kahjtheundedicated@lemmy.world 4 days agoRemember, when trying to start a conversation with a woman, follow rules 1 and 2:
- Be hot
- Don’t be not hot
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lightnsfw@reddthat.com 3 days ago
Jankatarch@lemmy.world 3 days ago
Ngl that taught process is part of the online incel culture. I have a lot friends who are women that don’t even think about it.
kahjtheundedicated@lemmy.world 3 days ago
It makes it a lot easier though. When I’m in good shape and my hair is looking decent, it’s pretty easy to chat up girls at bars and parties. Plus 10lbs, it gets significantly harder. Add an unfortunate fuckass haircut, not a good time.
Reality can be cruel. Of course this goes the other way too, and it is far, far from a rule. Personality can make up for a lot. But when you’re trying to talk to someone you don’t know, looks are the first thing being judged.