Comment on Snowflake is such a weird insult as it seems to imply it's best to just be like everyone else

andallthat@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

• lord_ryvan@ttrpg.network ⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Or like “Oh, you think you’re soo different”

  Weird insult, still.

  source

  • flicker@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    The person you replied to went on to argue that someone who thinks they’re unique or special should be mocked, to bring them back down to earth?

    Sounds like someone was bullied or abused and is forwarding trauma by justifying that it was correct.

    source
• halvar@lemm.ee ⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  I mean in the grand scheme of things there are only a handful of types of people, maybe a few hundred and those types repeat over and over. Everyone has their own unique experiences, personal drama and relationships, but their behavior and core traits are shared with probably millions of people throughout history. Thinking you are unique is not a rational belief and if it becomes integral to one’s personality (like it has to millions of people before them) I think they should be mocked, just for the sake of getting their heads straight.

  It’s not that you aren’t allowed to be the most important character of your story, it’s just that you shouldn’t think that’s because you are something that never was before and never will be after.

  source

  • Thorny_Insight@lemm.ee ⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    The way I think about it is that we’re all “snowflakes”. No two people are exactly the same. So while one can correctly claim to be unique that also applies to everyone else. It’s not like everyone else is the same but you’re unique. Also, being unique doesn’t automatically mean someone is better than others - one can also be uniquely bad.

    source

    • Cadeillac@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      I think you’ve stumbled on it yourself. If every person is unique and special, nobody can be singled out or given preferential treatment. That would be an impossible task to cater to ~6 billion or what ever we are at now, individually

      source

      • Unforeseen@sh.itjust.works ⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

        We’re up to 8 billion now, it’s crazy

        source

        • -> View More Comments
  • MindTraveller@lemmy.ca ⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    What if someone IS unique, though? I would consider Socrates unique. He was so determined, stubborn, and self-assured of his belief that he was a clueless fool that he was willing to die for it. What if someone is a once-a-generation brilliant mind or psychological anomaly? What if someone has a schizospectrum disorder and experiences a reality nobody else lives in?

    source

    • halvar@lemm.ee ⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      I’d argue that’s not a unique person, but a unique skill of an ordinary person. Interacting with Socrates as a person probably wouldn’t have been extraordinary but experiencing his unique ideas for the time would have.

      source

      • VulKendov@reddthat.com ⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

        I’d argue that unique skills, experiences, and relationships are what make people unique.

        source
• cashmaggot@piefed.social ⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  I figured it had to be about uniqueness. But also, I really do think we've all got certain commonalities but our experiences make us quite unique. Hmm. I wonder sometimes if the idea was brought together by people who attended k-12 primarily. Because a lot of the videos we saw way back when brought up the individuality of snowflakes quite often. But also I know there were a lot of projects surrounding us all making our own snowflakes. And it was an idea that just got stuck in their heads (as things tend to because we can't remember everything but certain things when repeated enough times lodge their way in). A lot of the films we were shown I think were from the 80s, maybe the 70s? And I don't think schools changed too much until around when smart phones were around. I know it's for sure a different jungle nowadays. And I was raised in an underfunded school system and (this is going to sound absolutely cruel) but I know a good chunk of Republicans that aren't vampires but are hella indignant probably weren't going to particularly well funded schools either. Just some stuff I'm kicking around, nothing for sure in here. Just makes me think. It's kinda like how certain generations get stuck on certain things. And if there wasn't much funding the materials would have to be drawn out more, which could expand the exposure/idealism that "every snowflake is unique."

  But I mean at the end of the day it's all bully logic and it's made to poke fun at people who they think are different and difficult. But I've got my thoughts on that too. I will say outside of all things that "staying the course" and being "moderate" at the least (conservative otherwise - I don't think we've really ever been all the progressive - and I guess I am just talking US politics) have already lined up many people for failure with no real reversal. And the thing I keep seeing people pop-up and talk about is if we're bold enough to keep going or if we can lay our egos down and find alternatives to many of our damaged systems and idealism. And I think a lot of this stuff is used so that we don't.

  But I will also say being around angry or manipulative people (I'll use the term extremist but I don't even think you have to be that extreme to be angry) isn't fun. At least for me personally. And I have walked away feeling marginalized on both sides of the fence. And I think some liberals, while their hearts are (may be) in the right place, have some pretty unrealistic views and sit on their hands quite a bit in a kinda Universalist limbo. And both sides are super susceptible to mediacoholicism and rage. But that doesn't stop me for a second of voting dem the whole way down on every ballot.

  I think I read once on Reddit say that someone considered themselves liberal until they moved into a hyper-liberal space and then slowly rolled to a more conservative space. I don't think there's an space under this sun that I would become a conservative. But I will say that I have found myself also disliking (some) people who I suppose would be considered "snowflakes" to hyper-conservatives. Because they have always come off a super manipulative, unable to compromise, and quite often hollow. But there have been some really cool freedom fighters I've met too. Who just are (exist), and even if they come from certain spaces just want what's best for people who have been chronically oppressed. So it's not so much the idealism. As it is a certain kind of person, and it's not just someone's bobbing and weaving around with blue hair. I'd also say it's not so much the performative nature as I'm a big mo with big expression and love people rocking their panache. It's just some of these folks kinda remind me of something like...idk. I mean they're for sure very internet-y. The whole lot of them (both sides). But they kind of remind me of someone constantly adopting everything around them but ultimately lacking their own substance or identity. And I had an ex like that, who was a hipster. And it was always like she was playing at being something, but in reality she was just copying the things around her. And like I guess I hear fake it til you make it and like the idea of like...if you're copying something it's cause you like and you want to be it - and what was that thing imitation is the purist form of flattery. And we're all influenced by all sorts of things and none of us original in that sense. But there's just something really sad about a person who doesn't even get to be a person but instead a persona. And I mean that like - all the way to the top. It sucks.

  So yeah, here's my word vomit. Hopping off cause this one was a doozy.

  source