Comment on new sharkey instance now open: cyberpunk.gay

• nicknonya@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  imma assume you posted this in good faith (in which case you should read my other comment) and explain as best as i can:

  non binary and girl aren’t mutually exclusive because, among other reasons, non binary is a very large umbrella term (i’m he/they for example, so i could be described as an ‘enby guy’).

  trans and enby are two distinct groups:
  you can be trans, you can be enby, and you can be both.
  for example i don’t consider myself trans because i don’t want a different gender than the one i have, i just wanted to do it differently.

  as a rule of thumb this whole gender stuff is so loosely defined that it’s best to just accept that there will be things you don’t get and move on.
  the important part isn’t understanding someone, it’s not treating them like shit when you don’t

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• vantablack@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  this should explain everything :)

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  • RIPandTERROR@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Kinda a dick response to what was a considerately, sensitively asked question.

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    • vantablack@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      it is not me or any other marginalized person’s fucking job to educate someone when search engines are right goddamn there

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      • RIPandTERROR@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

        You also were not required to answer at all…

        Honestly this hostility is off putting.

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      • unconfirmedsourcesDOTgov@lemmy.sdf.org ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

        It certainly isn’t a paid role, but in my experience those who seek to marginalize often do so with a whole lot of ignorance involved.

        You continue to be under no obligation to help educate the blind, but if you knew going into this that some people would have comments and questions about the impressive number of labels you’ve applied to yourself, it just feels like you’re setting yourself up to get mad on the internet at this point. Otherwise why bother including them in your post at all?

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      • Confused_Emus@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

        Evidence that marginalized individuals as just as capable of asshol-ish behavior as the majority.

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      • TseseJuer@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

        typical

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      • mecfs@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

        But “non-binary girl” was not included in your description.

        Anyways, new instance sound cool.

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    • nicknonya@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      the dickishness is likely due to that last paragraph:

      I’d guess the shitty comments are from people dismissing this as a pile of buzzwords, hopefully if they can understand better then they’ll be less shitty :)

      this makes it seem like the fault for the chuds behavior relies on op for not being clear enough with their labels, as opposed to with the chuds deciding that someone’s chosen self descriptors are somehow incorrect.

      many bigots excuse their behavior as just wanting a Fair and Rational Discussion™, ignoring that what they want to “discuss” about is the validity of someone’s whole existence.

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