Comment on new sharkey instance now open: cyberpunk.gay
vantablack@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 months agoyeah it happens a lot
expect a handful of shitty comments bitching about how i describe myself in this too
trans enby girl polyam lesbian gender terrorist
Can you explain to us old farts what this actually means? Like I thought I knew what all the individual words mean but aren’t non-binary and girl mutually exclusive? And isn’t trans implied by enby anyway?
I’d guess the shitty comments are from people dismissing this as a pile of buzzwords, hopefully if they can understand better then they’ll be less shitty :)
imma assume you posted this in good faith (in which case you should read my other comment) and explain as best as i can:
non binary and girl aren’t mutually exclusive because, among other reasons, non binary is a very large umbrella term (i’m he/they for example, so i could be described as an ‘enby guy’).
trans and enby are two distinct groups:
you can be trans, you can be enby, and you can be both.
for example i don’t consider myself trans because i don’t want a different gender than the one i have, i just wanted to do it differently.
as a rule of thumb this whole gender stuff is so loosely defined that it’s best to just accept that there will be things you don’t get and move on.
the important part isn’t understanding someone, it’s not treating them like shit when you don’t
Kinda a dick response to what was a considerately, sensitively asked question.
it is not me or any other marginalized person’s fucking job to educate someone when search engines are right goddamn there
the dickishness is likely due to that last paragraph:
I’d guess the shitty comments are from people dismissing this as a pile of buzzwords, hopefully if they can understand better then they’ll be less shitty :)
this makes it seem like the fault for the chuds behavior relies on op for not being clear enough with their labels, as opposed to with the chuds deciding that someone’s chosen self descriptors are somehow incorrect.
many bigots excuse their behavior as just wanting a Fair and Rational Discussion™, ignoring that what they want to “discuss” about is the validity of someone’s whole existence.
meldrik@lemmy.wtf 3 months ago
I didn’t understand anything about what you wrote about yourself, but sounds cool.
Welcome to the Lemmyverse 😄
Jimbo@yiffit.net 3 months ago
I’ll translate for you: this person is WICKED AS HELL