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Graphy@lemmy.world 7 months agoGetting pretty big “women only date assholes” vibes.
Before the internet I’m sure women were lining up around the block for those non-“loutish” men. Fear of rejection? What’s that? some of that newfangled internet nonsense is what that is.
Darn women ruining everything
sj_zero 7 months ago
I think you're flattening a multidimensional analysis of a problem, and it's not helpful or interesting.
In response to a criticism of male aggression, I explained female aggression and how it is modified in a postmodern social media driven world, and potential impacts of that, which shows exactly the dangers of just going with the flow.
The correct answer isn't that women ruin everything or that men ruin everything. The correct answer is that both male aggression and female aggression have negative effects on dating and the human race as a whole, and a nuanced multifaceted approach is required. Men who are more agreeable need to step out of that comfort zone and figure out how to approach and engage and eventually escalate in a respectful manner because history is written by those who show up, but you can't automatically put women on a pedestal either because they're flawed and fallible human beings too.
Most of the chapter I wrote for the graysonian ethic on attraction is warnings about various ways things can go bad, but ultimately both men and women will need to take some risks because dating is dangerous all around but the outcome is the meaning of life -- lifelong partnerships, building families, raising kids, and giving the future a little piece of yourself and your partner.
homicidalrobot@lemm.ee 7 months ago
Your analysis is single-perspective and lacks dimension, actually. Gonna guess the whole book is equally as useless as this post and pass. You have an extremely thin worldview overall and you think you know the meaning of life. Just absolute drivel lmao
Graphy@lemmy.world 7 months ago
> In response to a criticism of male aggression, I explained female aggression and how it is modified in a postmodern social media driven world, and potential impacts of that, which shows exactly the dangers of just going with the flow.
No, you tried to allude that women were going to be the downfall of society because they don’t like being approached. You tried to back that with the most drawn-out take that I basically summed up as “only assholes allowed to date now because 30 million bullies and they’re gonna have asshole kids and and and have you seen idiocracy??”
You’re trying to make it seem like people haven’t always been afraid of asking someone out and fear what might happen if they do. You think small town gossip pre internet was any better? You think confident guys haven’t always done better?
Also, do you think when women ask to not be approached that they literally mean leave them alone like nuns? I’m not here to teach you when you it’s ok to ask someone out.
Dawg, you gotta stop trying to use your own book to try and bring validity to this. It’s weird and no one’s read or is going to read that shit.