Bro, just date the strippers.
Trust me, in a life full of regrets, that’s not breaking the top 10. You have no obligation to anyone or anything to suffer yourself. There’s no Opus Dei-ing your way to a better credit score.
Take your wins where you find them, and fuck what other people think, for fucks sake, it’s your life. It’s like if you’re finding token A* brings you happiness but you’ve been taught that Token A* is bad cuz cuz and everyone you know thinks the same…you are taking someone else’s decision for your own in direct defiance of your own lives experience.
Do what you got to do to be happy, and do it unapologetically. Do it on the low or be the face that bucks the trend, who gives a shit? That’s all stuff outside your control, so not worth your attention anyways.
If dating strippers makes you happy then embrace it. Personally, for me, I run contrary to societies idea of sluttiness, I love it. To me its women embracing their sexuality, exploring their power thru sex appeal and sensualness and expressing their independence with total control of their bodily autonomy. It appeals to me because I like strong independent women. I don’t want to forever woo or charm a women or have her dependent on me. I want partners in life, not parasites. I want to be her choice; but with that they have to be free to leave whenever they want. If we decide to both forever woo each other, that’s a completely different conscious choice.
With strippers; they got a dancers body, got $, got rhythm, presumably looks good naked, and independent enough to either not care what other people think or can compartmentalize it away? Sounds fucking fantastic to me.
Like I don’t understand why people care so much about what other people think. Have you ever met people? Dude, they’re the fucking wooorst.
nifty@lemmy.world 8 months ago
Eh, maybe don’t base your self worth on marketing? We’re fascinated with youth because of our limited life spans. Everyone grows old and dies, tho.
Just felt like saying something because I hate that someone should feel bad about something so normal and outside their control.
MrJameGumb@lemmy.world 8 months ago
I never said it made sense, or that I agree with it in any way. It’s just what happens. If it were possible just to will the feeling away by using pure logic then midlife crises would not exist.
Your comment is comparable to asking a depressed person if they’ve ever tried just not being depressed anymore lol
nifty@lemmy.world 8 months ago
You’re right, I guess it’s a bit tone deaf comment. I didn’t mean it that way.