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You're joking, but a pro-tip: don't talk about this when you're romantically interested in someone. Make the first dates or ecounters with someone a positive experience, rather than ersatz therapy. No need to lie about it, just say you have some baggage, but are working through it.

It's a mistake too many (lonely) men fall into when they feel a connection to someone new.

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GladiusB@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago
I think they feel like they just want to be transparent. Which is cool. But, it can be too much sometimes.

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- Hyperreality@kbin.social ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago
  It's not just that.
  
  It's that a lot of (young) guys rarely get to talk about their emotions. So when they meet someone who seems to care about them, whether it be a prospective partner or a friend, they overshare. It all comes out in one big trauma/emotional dump.
  
  Which is fair enough. It has to come out some time, but it's not particular fun, sexy or fair on the other person. Especially if it's some young girl who has no clue how to deal with the twenty problems you just listed.
  
  Better to see a therapist, work on yourself, or talk to someone who's prepared for it. Not on a third date at the theme park.
  
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peopleproblems@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago
Man if I ever get to a first date again I’ll be so anxious I tell them I’m completely fine

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- Hyperreality@kbin.social ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago
  Something like: "I've had a bit of a bad day, but I'm really glad to see you. Let's have fun together." or "I was having a bit of a bad day, but you really helped me take my mind off it. Thank you."
  
  You'll feel heard. By the end of the date, they'll feel like they helped you feel better, which will also make them feel good.
  
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brbposting@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago
Reminded of the Boogie2988 interview (Piped)

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- LinkOpensChest_wav@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago
  It’s funny how he expects her to know who those YouTubers are lol
  
  I have heard of Boogie because of my interest in MTG, but I feel like that interviewer a lot when the kids start dropping names of YouTube celebrities I’m supposed to know
  
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Fudoshin@feddit.uk ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

ersatz therapy.

Are you German?

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- Hyperreality@kbin.social ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago
  Nein, aber Ersatz ist auch ein englisches Wort.
  
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  - TimewornTraveler@lemm.ee ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago
    I’ve never heard of ersatz therapy before but I did my master’s under an LMFT. search engine leads me to believe this is a kind of sexual surrogacy. is that right? I’ve heard a bit about this treatment modality she it sounds so interesting.
    
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    Aqarius@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago
    “Ersatz” in English is basically adopted to mean “make-do replacement”. A swamp cooler is an erzats air conditioner, for example.
    
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