Comment on Society beware
UnrepententProcrastinator@lemmy.ca 10 months ago
As a father of 4 boys, I find it sad that young men want a world on fire. There are a lot of good male role model out there, let’s promote them, seems that would be more conducive.
As someone who had a father of 4 - just tell them people are people. No one is above reproach. They all make mistakes, and a lot of them try to do as much good as they can.
There’s no worst thing that finding out your hero is a shit heel. But if you never had a role model - you can’t get that disappointment.
You just try your best to be your best. Because if everyone did that - the world would be a better place.
That’s how I’ve always operated. Can’t be let down if you never look up in the first place. I’m doing pretty well right now without having had a role model (I’ve had mentors but I feel there’s a difference), but I’ll never lie and say the road I’ve taken has been free of potholes and detours.
I’m writing this little fictional world for a set of stories, and had the idea to change over one of my “strong female role model explorer” characters to a guy; while keeping a number of less masculine traits. I just felt like it’s important for people to have more fictional characters in their demographic they want to look up to and imitate.
Be that role model.
Sure, up to a certain age where they develop their own interests you don’t share. Which is okay, I’m not there to hold their hand forever. Just long enough…
Being a role model is more about being a good moral guide. It doesn’t matter if you share their interests.
What I meant is that there should be people in their life who can be both.
theblueredditrefugee@lemmy.dbzer0.com 10 months ago
I never had a good male role model growing up, so instead of being an asshole like my dad or anyone from church I just transitioned
UnrepententProcrastinator@lemmy.ca 10 months ago
Which is fine too.
Wouldn’t wish it on my kids because of how society is. But happiness matters more.
theblueredditrefugee@lemmy.dbzer0.com 10 months ago
This was a half joke, the lack of male role model being solved by transitioning is kinda incidental, though it may have played a role because I didn’t identify with what I observed as the “male role”
UnrepententProcrastinator@lemmy.ca 10 months ago
It’s an interesting idea. Personally, I like to explore what part of my behavior is reinforced gender performance and which part feels more like me.