And having a practical monopoly by Match doesn’t help either.
Comment on ‘It’s quite soul-destroying’: how we fell out of love with dating apps
Kolanaki@yiffit.net 1 year ago
Once you realize their business model incentivizes them to not get you a life partner, they kinda don’t make sense to use.
June@lemm.ee 1 year ago
Clbull@lemmy.world 1 year ago
That pisses me off more than anything.
I really wish the FTC would go ham on Match Group and break up that monopoly…
krakenx@lemmy.world 1 year ago
Match group beat Apple. In Europe.
CmdrShepard@lemmy.one 1 year ago
Kinda like Luxottica being the reason why most sunglasses cost $175 for $0.10 worth of plastic.
SCB@lemmy.world 1 year ago
Their business model doesn’t really require that, as relationships have a natural attrition rate, and new people are constantly entering the market.
cynar@lemmy.world 1 year ago
Back in the day, plenty of fish did an interesting blog post on that very topic. Unfortunately, it vanished when they were brought up by one of the big dating site groups that now dominate.
They also did some amazing meta data analysis of their users, and discussed it publicly. E.g. including the word “awesome” in your opening message improved multi message response rate by 18% (from memory).
Clbull@lemmy.world 1 year ago
It was actually OkCupid.
They also did one where they looked at how men and women rate each other on looks, and found that women rate a huge 80% of men below average.
cynar@lemmy.world 1 year ago
I stand corrected. I used both back in the day. I even met my wife on there! Somehow I got the 2 swapped in my mind.
Clbull@lemmy.world 1 year ago
The way I remember them is that POF had a horrendous turquoise website design and looked like a circa-2003 webpage that hadn’t been updated in years, while Okcupid was a lot more competently designed.
systemglitch@lemmy.world 1 year ago
I met my partner on Kijiji. Never been happier, so they can work just fine.
I admit I’m as surprised as anyone because it was such a slog before talking to her initially.
Dark_Arc@social.packetloss.gg 1 year ago
I liked what bumble did with the “lifetime premium”. It gives them an incentive to actually get you a match.
Coincidentally… It’s on bumble I met my current girlfriend on after trying a litany of apps over the course of years… Definitely not saying it’s a good or easy option
RoxActually@lemmy.world 1 year ago
Met my wife on Bumble and we just had a baby in June
khannie@lemmy.world 1 year ago
Congratulations :)
pirat@lemmy.world 1 year ago
Wait until you find out that she isn’t real, and you’ve been transferring almost all your savings of semen to one nasty guy in Nigeria…
(lol, this presumes you haven’t even met your “baby” yet, only believed in the cute photos your “wife” sent of them, since she still needs a bit more money (probably crypto or giftcards) to be able to afford the transport to come live with you!)
pete_the_cat@lemmy.world 1 year ago
I think the lifetime premium is a joke because you’re paying a lot up front instead of monthly or weekly. Yeah, they may get less money, but probably not. As the article says, people tend to stop using them after a month or two regardless of the outcome (that’s definitely my experience), so getting like $150 up front for lifetime access is a lot better than someone paying $35/month for two months.
Dark_Arc@social.packetloss.gg 1 year ago
For me, it was definitely a huge money saver. Working in tech (now a remote job), not drinking, not being religious, and having extremely “meet a girl” friendly hobbies like hiking and gaming … it was extremely limiting.
A 1 time $150 was a steal compared to some of the other apps like the scam that is eharmony.
ramblinguy@sh.itjust.works 1 year ago
Wow we’re like the same person… Maybe I should give this lifetime Bumble a try
pete_the_cat@lemmy.world 1 year ago
I was you for 5 years (12 hour shifts 7-7, 6 months night, 6 months day, worked 3 days a week and every other Saturday) but in Manhattan. I bought 3 and 6 month subscriptions and I think that was the only time I actually got dates on there. I was surprised when I got one a few months back on a free account.