Comment on Hard no bud

• LemmyKnowsBest@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  If you knew I’m a woman would you have called me “bud” and anything like a “lad?”

  source

  • yakko@feddit.uk ⁨4⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Maybe? I didn’t mean any offense, buddies are any gender for me and anyone can be like my kid, who happens to be a lad. At least until I’m notified to the contrary…

    source
  • sneakypersimmon@lemmy.today ⁨4⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    This is kind of a weird hill to die on, ngl.

    source

    • yakko@feddit.uk ⁨3⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      People are allowed to be particular about pronouns. I just tagged that account she/her, it’s not a hill unless we make it one. Helps if they do that themselves, but I can hardly criticise.

      source

      • sneakypersimmon@lemmy.today ⁨3⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

        Not so much a criticism as trying to point out that you weren’t being malicious in your comment.

        source
    • LemmyKnowsBest@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      I know it sounds weird for me to complain every time someone assumes I’m a man, but if you’re a man, how would you feel if everyone on the internet automatically assumed you’re a woman? Calling you she & her & ma’am & sweetheart & lady. That would feel pretty weird, wouldn’t it?

      That’s how I feel when people call me dude, bro, bud, lad, etc 🤷🏼‍♀️

      source

      • sneakypersimmon@lemmy.today ⁨3⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

        I’m a woman to start.

        Your username gives no indication that you’re a woman and this site is overwhelmingly male. I’m never surprised when someone guesses I’m a man when we’re conversing initially. It’s not like the greatest thing in the world, but most people here are not misgendering me on purpose.

        He didn’t call you a “lad”, he said you might have ADHD like his lad aka his son.

        Bud feels like a pretty gender neutral term compared to dude, man, brother, etc.

        source

        • -> View More Comments