Comment on Would you ever call your son a disappointment?
TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 19 hours agoYeah, no.
This ‘do no harm’ shit is nothing more than toxic positivity.
Pain is part of life. Learn to deal with it and stop trying to avoid it pathologically. You should feel bad for disappointing people.
angrystego@lemmy.world 18 hours ago
There can be both toxic positivity and toxic negativity. It’s good to be aware you can do damage with words. It greatly depends on the situation and words and nonverbal language used. I also feel like saying you’re disappointed by the son’s concrete behaviour is ok, while saying he’s a disappointment (in his whole) is a heavy caliber - maybe the meaning varies regionally or something?
TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 17 hours ago
angrystego@lemmy.world 6 hours ago
Yep, that can be an extreme case where it could be used. I think it gets used by abusive or just clueless parents more often though.